My boss is making sexual advances towards me.

How do I make her stop?

I am 32 year old married man. About six months ago our director retired and they brought in a 25 year old woman to be the new director. I was upset at first because I felt they over looked me for the job. The only thing I can think is that she has a masters from Yale and I didn’t attend the ivy league. After a few weeks I could see she was very bright and experienced beyond her years so I wasn’t too upset.

About two weeks after she started work she asked me to go to dinner with her to go over the budget numbers. I was uncomfortable because I have a 2 year old and a wife I love and would never jeopardize that. I declined her offer and went home for the evening. A few weeks later I was going over a clients file and she pulled up a chair and after a few minutes she put her hand on my thigh. I got up and went to the breakroom to get some coffee. A few days after that we were driving to a corporate business meeting and she decided to tell me that she was the only girl in her sorority that could deep throat a banana without gagging. She proceeded to tell me other sex stories and fantasies she had that are too x rated for the forum. I couldn’t wait for that trip to get over. About three weeks later she just got back from a vacation and came into my office and shut the door and pulled down her skirt and panties and showed me her tatoo she got on vacation. Needless to say it wasn’t on her thigh or butt. A few weeks later she came into my office and said that we both have to go out of town for a business convention. She claimed the hotel was booked all she could get was one room with a king sized bed. She said she would sleep on the cot. The morning we were supposed to fly out I called in and told her my child and wife we very sick and I had to take care of them. This past Monday was the last straw. I had just closed a large deal with a company I have been trying to get onboard for two months. I was getting ready to leave to go home and she came into my office and shut the door and gave me a gift. I opened it and was shocked to receive a hand held male sex masterbation toy. I didn’t know what to say so I said thanks threw in my briefcase and proceeded to leave. She said “not so fast I want to see if you know how to use that thing” and handed me some lubricant. I said “I had to go home we were meeting some friends for dinner.” She said “I am beginning to wonder if you are a company man or not.” I just left but now I don’t know what to do. If I goto HR and report sexually discrimination I don’t know what will become of that. Usually they just report the first one and do a half assed investigation. If I confront her I know there will be repercussions and don’t want to lose my job. I am beginning to think that the Yale degree didn’t advance her career as far has her sexual wishes did. What do I do?