Mum - Does She Hate Me?

My mum is never at home, I see her about 30 mins a day, she is asleep when I leave in the morning, she is only home to cook dinner but even then she doesn’t pay any attention to us… she is always on the phone or on the computer.

When she gets back from work she is happy for about a minute, but then she turns depressed. Me and my sisters are not badly behaved, we do loads, but she is never happy, I put in loads of effort at school but she barely congratulates me when I do well.

Sometimes she says she wants to spend time with us, but we never do anything she just ends up falling asleep. I really miss her, and I feel that she hates me. She says that I should go live my dad becasue I never talk to her. But if she took the time to talk to me properly she would see that I am naturally quiet… I don’t talk much.

She doesn’t even know my teachers name. She doesn’t have any idea about what I am doing at school or who my friends are. Whats more is that she is always pressuring me to spend loads of times with my friends outside school when she knows I don’t like doing lots of that, and that is just what I am like. It is like she just wants to get rid of me.

She gets really angry really easily… one thing goes slightly wrong and she shout and she takes her anger out on us. She only ever talks about… her work, her friends and her boyfriend. Never about me.

Its like she hates being with me.

What shall I do?

Thanks

Answer #1

No mother should do that to their children, its just plain mean! if you decide to bring kids into this world, at least try to take the time to listen to you kids, god (no offence to your mom though).

Wow, that must be really hard for you to go through. HAve you tried to talk to her about it? Maybe you should tell her why you feel this way and how she is treating you. She doesn’t hate you, she will alays love you no matter what.

I’m reading a book right now kind of like your situation. It’s called “LOck and Key” by Sarah Dessen. I like it, it’s really good. Maybe you will change your mind on your mom after you read this book. :) This girl has BIGGER problems than that. You should read it.

Anyways, try to talk to her, and see what happens next. If it doesnt go well, get your sisters to help you with it too.

Good Luck! <3 Caitlyn

Answer #2

Hi I’m 13 and a girl, i know I’m only 13 but this might help Ok when your mom gets back greet her and stuff,jump around n happy stuff if she sleeps try to sleep with her sometimes(naps) I know it’s lame but still bonding right? And when she says we are going to do something you have to plan it, and do stuff for holidays, when her birthday is give her a crazy birthday that should work,ya I know kiss up but it works !

Answer #3

Hi I’m 13 and a girl, i know I’m only 13 but this might help Ok when your mom gets back greet her and stuff,jump around n happy stuff if she sleeps try to sleep with her sometimes(naps) I know it’s lame but still bonding right? And when she says we are going to do something you have to plan it, and do stuff for holidays, when her birthday is give her a crazy birthday that should work,ya I know kiss up but it works !

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