How can I get my mom to accept that I'm an adult?

I am 27 years old and my FIANCEE and I want to move in together. My mom, however, is getting mad about it (I’m still living with her). She has admitted to me in the past that she just has to get over the fact that I’m an adult now and not her “little girl” anymore. But my brother says now that I’ve been staying with him so much, that she is always in a bad mood and taking it out on everyone. I feel bad but at the same time really mad that she can’t seem to let me and my future husband be happy. I just don’t know what to do.

Answer #1

your 27, if she doesnt’ treat you like your an adult yet then she has a problem seriously. You need to tell her, “I’m 27 years old, I’ve been an adult for a long time and it’s time for me to have my own life, and you need to stop treating me like a child. Just because you can’t handle it doesn’t mean you need to treat me the way you do.” That’s what you need to tell her…I told my mom that a year ago and I’m younger than you!

Answer #2

Ok well u need to get them into 1 room and tell them that i am a big girl and i’m going to move out but i will come seee you on a special ecasion like wendsays or like saturday night and we will go have family fun together for one night!!!

Answer #3

Well folks. It’s all good now. I am moving out by the way. And mom is okay with it now. She was just going through what many parents go through when their children move out and it doesn’t help that I am her only daughter. But as I said, she’s fine with it now and is in fact helping me out a lot. Thanks for the comment phil2611 (Phil2611 am blessed, it’s better to keep your religious view out of answers, unless you say this is my opinion, because you cannot prove that’s what’s right) cuz, yeah, I’m not a religious person at all. Thanks to everyone to answered but I got this one figured out.

Answer #4

Greetings fellow user, You may be having this problem for the folowing reasons, also I hope you enjoy my help, and rate my advice, Thank you very much, and enjoy the help below! –Hopei my radvice help ysou, Don’t ftorgelt to rayte =) , -P hil2611 am blesse, it’s better to keep your religous veiw out of answers, unless you say this is my opinion, because you cannot prove that’s what’s right.


Anyway, You should move out, and start your life, also help your mother get medical help such as a phsychiatrist. -Hope my advice help you, Don’t forget to rate =)

     -Phil2611
Answer #5

Dear shelly27, Well…you already know what you must do. Is it really your mother who is having the hard time giving you up or are you deep down afraid to leave to something that is not familiar? It is scary moving out and starting a new life but there comes a time when you really have to take the chance. Your brother is telling you, you are making his life difficult and he wants you out. the signs are all there for you and it’s time to begin a new life. It takes as much courage to have tried and failed as to have tried and succeeded! So time to make some mature decisions and time to let others live their lives. You will be doing your mother a favour by giving her the next step in her life. Sue…good luck

Answer #6

Move out! The fact that you mom feels the need to be controling and you let her get under your skin this much indicates to me that you don’t have a healthy relationship with your mom now.

This is one of those cases where you have to do whats best for you. Your mom has to come to terms that you are an adult and you are moving on with your life. You aren’t in this world just to make your mom happy; you have to live your own life and if your mom can’t be happy for you than that is her problem.

Answer #7

You’re supposed to live together AFTER you’re married….if you want to do what’s right.

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