How to help my Mom with her drinking problem?

hey dude, im going through the same thing as you right now my moms hitting the bottle pretty hard and basically im planning on filming her constantly and making a movie on her becuase like most people say above they need to realized how they are before they can change so im gunna make sure she knows how awful she is to me my sister and especially my dad and ill let you know how that goes and you can approach it like that 2… my buddy went this way and his mom is better then ever… anyways bro best of luck to you your mom and your family! stay strong

Well my mom is the same but I spent some time with her and she admitted that she could not take care of us and stuff and she is poor… and she was with this guy named billy and then he got her drunk (I wanted to kill him) and she made me have a nervous breakdown and so we called the cops cause we could not find her and so we found her I love mi mom and stuff and I know how she feels I just hate to see her drink beer and stuff I really want to help her… We are trying to find her some help I really want her to find help I love mi mom with all mi heart even though she drinks 2 much… But this is what you do since I read the question you stay with her and make sure she does not get a drink or whatever and if she does start crying really bad but in the morning if my mom does not have a beer she will throw up and start shaking

from some of these answers I have read they dont know a whole lot, my mom is also an alcoholic and I am now 18 my sister moved out at 19 cause she couldnt take it… one day I grabbed out my video cam when she was drunk and started making a documentary…you say your mom doesnt drink when your there cuase she doesnt want you to see her that way well get your sister to follow her around with a video came and make a movie on “MOM your DRUNK” and put lil comments in like I missed when we were a family yada yada she needs to be shown first hand what a mess she is to realize it… move alcoholics dont come around themselves thats why theres such things as “interventions” anyways brotha best of luck to you and your mom

Yeah I’m going through the same thing. My grandma and grandpa died within a year and my stepdad divorced her. This really made her depressed and she just hits the bottle everyday. Days that she is sober, she is the greatest mom in the world. But days she is drink I just can’t take it. My whole town knows it too and I have to suffer for her actions. I’m a freshman in highschool by the way. I play football baseball and hockey so I have to either ask people for rides or walk. It’s gotten to the point where parents call me everyday to know if I need a ride. That’s just embarrassing. I really don’t know how much longer I can take it. I’ve had sooo many heart to hearts with her but nothing has worked. Pleaaase help!

Dear Kala, Your mom has really gone through a lot of horrific times in her life.

It is hard to tell her what she should be doing or should not be doing.

The trauma that she has encountered is really beyond most “advisors”.

What I would have you think about is maybe getting in touch with the TV show called “Intervention”. Google the name “intervention television show” Tell them your story and I believe they will have people/therapists that will be on your moms level of help, it does not have to be on TV…they just may be able to send you to the right people. Goodluck Familycoach

YOU can’t make her stop drinking. She will only stop when she realizes that she has a problem - she has to have the desire to quit drinking. At the moment it seems like a lot of things are going downhill for her and she’s depressed… so why not drink?

It’s a hard thing to deal with because you want to tell her she has a problem without making her mad or resentful towards you. (my mom is going through the same thing.)

Maybe “all she has left” is her daughters. Maybe try spending more time with her (and in a good moment bring up that you miss the old times like this.)

xox Sika

A drinking problem is one of those things that a person must want to get help with before they stop.

I know it seems selfish, and I am not trying to excuse her behavior, but from her standpoint she is in pain and the drinking is helping to numb that pain. Eventually it becomes a pattern and now she is simply addicted to it.

Im sure she knows she has a problem. Try explaining that you miss her, and maybe try getting her to an AA meeting. Maybe if she sees the ways drinking can screw up her life (yes it can get worse) then she may get help…