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Why do I hate my Mom's boyfriend so much?

First, my Mom and my Dad have been divorced for I’d say, 7 to 9 years now, and I can understand why, my Dad is bipolar you see.. Anyways, my Mom has a boyfriend she’s been seeing for 7-8 months now and this is the second time he’s lived with us. And I am very overweight, but this man.. I don’t know how overweight he is.. he’s easily 400 pounds I bet. He eats loads of food, he doesn’t like anything healthy for him, he grunts and breathes like he’s going to die when he walks, and he’s annoying. However, he doesn’t abuse my Mom, he loves her alot, and I’m glad she’s happy, and he isn’t mean to me, I’m kinda mean to him and I don’t like that.. but he just.. he’s disgusting. Really, he is. I can’t stand to be around him, to look at him, I get sick thinking about him. Why do I hate him so much? All he is, is a slob. He’s not mean (he overreacts with his dog sometimes I think), he works, and he can drive.

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Answer #1

first of all it’s obvious that you issues with him because he isnt your dad. secondly, you stated that you are very over weight, and he is way more then you are, is there a possibility that you see yourself like him down the line & it really disgusts you? Could that be the issue, are you so afraid you might turn out like that in the long run? Is that what really makes you ill at the sight of him?

If the answers are yes…then you need to do something about it…change can only happen if you yourself want it to happen. baby steps like admitting why you are so mean to him… then more baby steps when admitting to why you cant stand the sight of him… last but not least if it bothers you that much & fear becoming that in the long run then do something about it. You know you are over weight, you know it is not healthy, you know it causes illnesses…then make the change… take a walk around the block for 30 mins a day…change your diet to healthier foods…perhaps try some sport like basket ball or baseball, something that involves running but not something difficult like track. If you have a treadmill that can work as well…anything that will cause you to sweat. and last…stop treating him so poorly. You yourself he treats your mom well, he treats you well…at least attempt to build some sort of relationship with the man, even as a friend…maybe decide to take walks together slow paced til you both can do more. A little at a time and it will help both your weights & the relationship with one another. who knows you might be saving his & your life in the long run & wind up best buds! ;)

Hope this helps.

Answer #2

You probably are just protective of your mom and think she deserves the best. It’s natural.

Answer #3

I couldn’t walk more than 1 minute with him without wanting to scream. That god damn breathing and the stupid things he says.. and yes, he’s the one who’s inspired me to lose weight because I DON’T want to turn out like him. That’s why the worst bad thing I’ve had in quite a while was some pour-over butter popcorn. Just earlier today I blended an apple, some pieces of a pineapple and a grapefruit together because I love fruit. I’m not picky with food really, unlike he who likes everything bad for him and hates anything good for him..

Answer #4

you really dislike him because you think he is trying to take over ur dads plae in ur family. and clearly u dont like that.. you should talk to ur mom about how u feel towards him and figure something out.. maybe its too early for him to move in with u guys. he should really take of himself. and you should to since u cant walk wit him walk wit ur mom or by urself.. and have sometime alone and think about stuff.. doing this will help you alot in many stressing situation! hoped i help.! :)

Answer #5

Thing is, we’re kinda dependent on him because we aren’t AS poor as we were without him working, and he can’t afford to live in a separate house.. And my Dad’s remarried and everything, I don’t think the problem is him trying to “take over my Dad’s place” considering the fact he’s no where near what a father could be. He’s more dependent, almost like a child sometimes more than an adult. XD

Answer #6

no offense here, but Why are you So damn Angry at him? He makes ur mother smile, and is nice to you.. Get over your anger issues long enough to at least meet him half way rather then talk him down. As you can see it is not working for you doing it in a mean & cruel way…by you acting this way will only make him feel worse about himself & in the long run if he does leave, ur f*kd… Who do you think your mom will blame? You for ruining her relationship with him.
He has been helping out, some guys dont even life a damn finger…since you are poor as hell as you mentioned, I would keep a lid on it! I mean seriously, he helps out and you still have the nerve to wise off…wow, if I was ur mother…you wouldnt have the freedom to be talking like that. Question for ya, why not just focus on doing what you need to do …ur 15, very over weight & still talking him down…take a good look in the mirror before you point fingers & judge others! Help yourself & if you care enough about ur mother, then you need to try to make an effort here to get along. He isnt ur father, but can be a great bf to ur mother, so have some respect rather then just use him for personal gain.

Answer #7

you should reaally talk to ur mom about how you feel towards him. it”ll help having ur support from ur mom to get through ur stressingss over him.. if for some reason ur mom doesnt help or understand you.. then maybe u should try giving him a chance.. and he wont turn out soo bad as you think he is.

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