How can I tell my mom I am beginning to hate her boyfriend/husband?

When you have some alone time with your mom, I would tell her straight up how you feel about this whole situation. Don’t be rude about it, but show her how much this is all affecting and hurting you. Tell her that you love her and you’re not trying to be disrespectful or anything, but there are things that Craig does that is NOT okay (you should elaborate on that). Tell her how you often feel like they want you to change yourself in order to suit their needs, and that you’re really starting to get tired of it (maybe suggest a compromise?). I know you said to not tell you to, “Just sit down and talk with her and be honest with her”, but I really think that that is exactly what you should do - be honest. I know how that can be super hard, and it’s clear that you don’t want to cause any trouble, but being honest doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re being rude or anything. As long as you sound genuine, then you’re fine! I’m sure your mom will appreciate your sincerity. If you feel that writing all of your feelings/concerns on a letter would be more effective, then do that instead, and then give it to her.

I really appreciate your answer. The thing is she already knows things he does arent ok, and she kinda hints to him about them but she definitley doesnt really give it an effort. She knows Im struggling too and we have a very honest and open relationship-or atleast we used to before we began to fight. But anyways thank you very much for the answer :)

Why do you hate him? Could it be you’re not giving him a chance because he’s sort of replacing your dad? Is he trying to be a “dad?” Does he feel threathened by your relationship with your mom? It’s always really hard with a step-parent, and to make it get to a bearable point, both sides usually have to give a little.

What are the main areas of your stress with him? Maybe we can sort that out here then you can take something reasonable to your mom… because you’re right - “I hate Craig” isn’t nearly as effective as, (for example) “Mom, i feel weird when Craig tells me to get off my lazy behind and help with the dishes so if he can treat me like an adult, then I will be more willing to help around the house…”

No I dont feel threatened by him or anything, my parents split up when I was at a very young age and Ive known him since I was 4 years old so thats nothing new.