Me and my baby

NEVER let some boy tell you what to do with YOUR life, because its YOUR life, not his!!

You might want to show him this>>

here are some following questions for you and your boyfriend to think about in terms of baby readiness:

~Do we have the finances available to raise a child – for example, food, clothing, diapers, and money to put away for our child’s future? ~Do we have health benefits for the family – a mother needs prenatal care, a baby certainly needs good health care, and a growing child needs healthy parents! ~Do our jobs or schooling require us to work long hours? ~Will having a child make it difficult for either of us to advance in school or in our careers at this point in time that may cause career or financial difficulties in the future? ~Do we have childcare available for a baby? ~Are we in an adequate living space that is conducive to raising a child? ~Are we both feeling equally ready for a child or is either one of us feeling at all pressured into the situation? ~Are we in a committed and stable relationship? What kind of future do we see for ourselves – are we planning on staying together? Will we get married? Live together? ~By having a baby will we be in a similar situation as many of your friends, or will we be in a different phase of your life than our friends? It can be difficult seeing friends going out and having freedoms that you will no longer have. ~Are there any medical concerns for the mother in terms of carrying and delivering a child? ~Does either parent smoke, drink a lot or use drugs? ~Do we each function well when there are frequent disruptions to your sleep? ~Do we agree on parenting styles? ~Have we planned on how we will handle the childcare responsibilities? ~Are we both willing to sacrifice your time, money and independence – put our energies into someone besides ourselves? ~Do we have a good support system? ~Does either of us feel that having a child will fix a problematic relationship with our significant other? ~Does either of us feel that having a child will make up for a problematic relationship with one of our parents? ~Does either of us feel that having a child will help alleviate any personal feelings of loneliness and sadness? ~Are we both prepared to deal with the possibility of our child having any developmental delays or genetic defects?