Married with crush

I’ve been married for almost a year, and my husband is wonderful, and we have a strong, intuitive relationship (he’s definitely a keeper :). However, to my surprise, I have developed a little (hopefully quickly passing) crush on a single co-worker, who is a few years older than me. I think it’s largely attributable to the pressures of long hours, which can really exhaust the mind and make it feel/think funny things. It doesn’t help that my co-worker is handsome, kind, funny, smells good, and has given me helpful advice on work. It’s a good thing that he most likely does not have a crush on me. At the end of the day, I am going to “file” this crush, not blame myself too much, and focus on work. I go to work to earn money for myself and my husband and our nest; I will avoid creating unnecessary complications with the figments of my imagination.

I’ve been on both sides my boyfriend and I split because he was having an emotional affair that I found out about with a his coworker, now we are trying to patch things up. but in the process I have a crush on a married coworker, nothing will ever come of it, I feel guilty for having the feelings, and want them to go away, but now I see how it happened with my boyfriend. ughhh you work with people day in and out and of the opposite sex, there are many simularities because a lot of time is spent together and experiances are shared.. I think its natural to get feelings for someone married or not.. but whst you do with them is the important thing.. we just have to know itll go away hopefully, but never ever act on it.. you cant help feelings.. but you can control your actions.. I hurt so bad when I found out about my boyfriend… I would never do that to another person…

Everybody who is married has these little “crushes.” Anyone who says they don’t are lying, and anybody who says it is wrong has never been married. Just understand that it’s gonna happen and try not to beat yourself up over it. Don’t think that it means you don’t love your husband anymore. When you find yourself thinking of the other person, stop fantasizing, and think about something else–think about how good your relationship is with your husband. Eventually, the crush will go away. I believe that unrealistic expectations are the real reason for the high divorce rate.

Thats really fucked up… your husband trust you and you’re just making him look like a sucker. stop looking at other men and pay attention to the man you married. you shouldnt have married if you were just going to look at other men. GROW up deal with the fact that YOU made the decision to get married and stop thinking about yourself and your “FEELINGS” . no wonder the divorce rate is at 64%

It’s just a crush. Even though you are married, it doesn’t mean you are dead. People still think other people are attractive. Just make sure you don’t act on it, because you can really mess up a lot of other people’s lives.

I’m in the middle of a HUGE crush with my husband’s friend. My hub and I don’t really get along anymore. We don’t hug, kiss or have sex anymore. Going on for a looong time. I’m really thinking about leaving and hooking up with the friend, who is adorable and very sexy. He’s a builder and very easy on the eye! My days are filled with thoughts of him. The only thing stopping me is my kids. I don’t want them to be the product of broken parents. So I know how you feel, but we all only have one life and you have to make your way the best you know how. Be happy in the decisions you make and live like there’s no tommorow. Don’t look back when you’re 70 and say to yourself “I wish…” Because then it’s far to late.