How do you know when it's love?

Love doesn’t always make sense, but the bottom line on this situation is simple: it is weird. There are nearly two decades of life dividing the two of you, “What on earth can you guys possibly have in common??” Most normal well-adjusted 30+ year old men (and more than a few men in their late 20’s) would run to the nearest psychologist if they ever seriously thought about having that kind of a relationship with a 15 year old child. I know teens hate being called children but really, you’re not an adult by any legal or socially accepted definition of the word so get over the child label and just accept that this 30 year old who treats you like gold probably has some really unsettling demons lurking in his closet and that those demons are just waiting to jump out and scare you back into a reality where teens date teens, or at least young adults, and 30 year old men don’t stake out local high schools for dates.

It isn’t the feelings between you that define this relationship; it is the underlying motivations for his (and your) pursuing it that really count. Why can’t he relate to women his age, or even women only 10 years younger? You may often find yourself stating that you’re just really mature for your age, and that may even be true, but this guy is also really immature for his age and that just can’t be good. It all boils down to life experience. Hes been where you are 15 years ago…your life is just starting. Questionable motivation on the older man’s part combined with a lack of shared life experiences on your part, are the biggest reasons this type of relationship should never happen. Best bet, dump the older man and open your heart to love with somebody whose life experience better matches your own.