Living off the government!!

SHES USING THE TAX PAYERS MONEY? I dont find that under mind your own business

There are always gonna be lazy people you meet in life. Some people think things should be handed to them. If your boyfriend realizes that this is a problem, he will probably learn to do the total opposite because of her. No one wants to make the same mistakes their parents make. As for her eventually karma will catch up to her. There are people that actually really need that money and she is taking advantage of the situation. She better be careful though, because if they ever figured it out she would probably have to pay it back.

OK well I am dealing with the same thing okay. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about the hole thing and that you don’t like whats going on? He should help you and you two move out together, I know that feeling and it sucks. Is he a mamas boy??

How his mother lives…isn’t your business (and if it was me, I simply wouldn’t allow myself to spend much brain energy thinking about it)…HOWEVER, how YOU live now…and how you may live in the future…IS your business. I’d be watching him very carefully, if I was planning a future with him…You can’t change other people, but you sure don’t have to join them…

Having a good work ethic is valuable…but hard to spread around…In other words, your ethics won’t rub off on boyfriend unless HE wants them to.

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Firstly, how old are you, 17? I don’t think it’s time to move in with a boyfreind just yet to be totally honest. The thing you could do though is remind your boyfreind about your strong feelings towards the situation. Tell him how you can’t wait to be a full grown adult and earn a living and have a life together as working citizens. Try to convince him.

But at the end of the day- sometimes some people are past the point of no return. If you have been brought up to live this careless lifestlye it is hard to get out of it. If it’s all you have ever known and then your girlfreind try’s to to change the situation he may feel squashed or asif you are being pushy so like I say you hve to be subtle. If it comes to blows and he says he feels you are being pushy or whatever then I think an ultamatium is in order. This life or a life were YOU EARN your living. Tell him you want independence in later life and you need him to put in the same commitment or it isn’t going to work.

All said, you are still young so if you like him and apart from this he is ok why not just stay with him, if your happy? it’s up to you weather you leave or not but you need to make your point reconised.

If you don’t enjoy being around her, don’t be around her.

And this is as far as your involvement should go. Everything else you mentioned falls under ‘mind your own business.’ You’re worrying a lot about things that have nothing to do with you, and why you think you know more about what is best for that family than those who are actually in it is baffling.

And please stop trumpeting your family’s powerful work ethic as a shining beacon of what we can all aspire to as though it were something you personally were involved in. Your parents worked to get you where you are today, not you.