Jealous Children

If the boyfriend is living in the household and helping support the family as a whole, then yes, he has a right to discipline the child. I’m not saying he has a right to strike the child in any way but he should have the right to give her a timeout or to tell her to stop doing things that are detrimental to her. By not doing that she will quickly learn that she can play one against the other. Trust me, it happened to me as an adult and as a child. I learned to play my step dad against my mom like a fiddle. And my children tried to pull it on my husband and myself but by that time I already knew the tricks,lol No, he should not touch the child in any form or shape as punishment. That is one thing I hold fast to. But there are other ways to discipline and make rules than that. And rules at 5 years of age are a great idea. If I had not given my children rules and guidelines growing up then the tragedy that we have all faced in the last four years would have been a lot worse. Kids today don’t have enough rules, but that is for a whole other topic,lol

Yes, there needs to be a stopping point with the discipline, but telling them that he should in no way discipline the child is just setting the whole family up for more grief later down the road. But, that just my opinion.

As for the jealousy thing, yeah, it’s perfectly normal. She is used to you being her mommy and only her’s. At that age they don’t like to share toys let alone their mommy. You both need to show her love and attention. Make sure to include her in on family things with your boyfriend. And for God’s sake, tell him to grow up and quit bickering with a 5 year old. He is the adult here, not her and he is only making it harder to get any semblance of respect from her.

I am gussing this guy is not your daughters biological father, which means that realistically, he has no right to disipline her unless she is damaging some thing that belongs to him orit is for her safety or if he is not ghome. I would askhim to not disipline her unless hese scenereios arise. this may help her view him more as a friend and less like a mean guy who always tells her what to do. she probably is jealous, but also fells that you are replacing him as her parent as opposed to yo you because he is usually the disiplinary force. DONT START TO ACT LIKE HIM THOUGH, OR YOU WILL MAKE HER HATE YOU TOO.