Jailbait

Omg! okay so im 16 but I look way older like older then 18. so all these older guys like me and it drives me crazy because it just messes with my mind! So I like my cousins bestfriend and he got locked up for turning himslef in he had a warrant. And I’ve been really thinking about him a lot I been wanting to write to him and stuff but im scared if I change his way of thinking he is going to want to go away to the nacvy with my cousin and I dont want him to leave so what can I do should I write to him and go try to see him?