Is what I said ok? What do I do next?

This guy I met about a month ago through one of my friends liked me and we’ve been talking basically everyday and going out almost once each week. Since the day we met and exchanged phone numbers he has been calling me or msging me first almost everyday. A few times it was oppossite. Not because I’m not interested in getting to know him, but because he works until late and doesn’t always get off work at the same time so I thought I won’t bother him I’ll just wait. However, as for being interested, he does seem interested but not at all enthusiastic. Why? Is that just his character? Furthermore, the other night when we were at a club I was talking to another guy for a few minutes towards the end before we were going to leave and when I turned around he had left. I found out afterwards he had gotten jealous so he took off without saying goodnight and asked me through a phone msg to start going out, become boyfriend and girlfriend. I replied I have to think about it and we’ll talk soon. Yesterday and a while ago he asked if I thought about it and what my answer is and I told him although I’d like to get to know him better because I like him let’s try and see how it goes. How does that sound? Is what I said ok? I don’t want to rush into anything because my last relationship which was also my first didn’t last for very long because I didn’t know the guy too well and rushed into saying yes and ended up not liking the guy that much which was unfair too him and wrong. What do I do next?

Answer #1

I knew my boyfriend 6 mos. before we started “seeing” each other, then 2 mos. later we became boyfriend/girlfriend. If hes not willing to get to know you better, then I wouldnt waste my time. My biggest concern is how he behaved when you were talking to another guy. To me, that is a big red flag. Its ok to have jealous feelings, but to just walk out on you…thats just immature. You talked to another guy, he walks out on you without saying goodnight, then asks you to go out?…I would seriously watch out with this guy, because he seems to be showing signs of having a controlling type behavior. Jealousy isnt a healthy start to any relationship, and can lead to more serious problems down the road.

Answer #2

That sounds like the perfect thing to do. Me and my boyfriend met and two days later he asked me out, I said I would have to think about it. Two days later he asked me out again and I said yes. To my suprise it has been 11 months today. :) Everytime I would wait to get to know someone they would only last about a week or two. But what you said sounds just right. If it doesn’t work out, there are plenty other fish in the sea. Goodluck && I hope everything works out.<3

Answer #3

I think you are doing a great job. You are being honest with him and yourself. If you feel that you can only offer him friendship right now then that’s fine. Don’t be pressured and go with your heart…Great job

Answer #4

great, keep it up, get to know him as much as you can, then you can decide wether you like him or not!! you have to be honest but wothout being rude! good luck!

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