Is him being 18 and me 15 called rape?

I’m 15 years old and I’ve been having sex with a 18 year old. he took my virginity when I was 14 and he was 17 this past new years. I don’t ever get to see him that much because he lives in florida. Me and him have been friends for 6 years. When we first met we were living next door to one another…now he just comes up to visit a few times a year. He just came up for spring break and we hung out and I had sex with him 2 times in one day. I’m scared since his age and all isn’t that called rape? I’m really confused because I don’t want to leave him because he took my virginity. I’m glad hes still around and calls me and everything but what should I do. A three year difference isn’t all that bad but at this age apparently it is. What should I do?

Answer #1

I think if someone asks a question on here they should expect answers sometimes that they dont want instead of getting angry. No one on here knows you enough to say things just to upset you. They are just saying what they know to be true. Ok lets see what they are saying..Yes it is illegal where you live..ok well you proberbly knew that already … some people do think an age gap is not a good thing…well they proberbly havent met anyone older than them who they have fallen in love with. You see its just other peoples opinions and it doesnt mean you have to listen to them or live your life by them its just an opinion. From my personal experience I went out with older guys all the time because I couldnt even have a conversation with a guy my age. Yeh I could have gotten into trouble but my parents knew him and were ok with it. Its your life at the end of the day and all that matters is that you are doing the right thing for yourself. Your the only one who can be hurt by this situation and have to live with any consequenses of it which im sure you are mature enough to do. My advise though…dont post this sort of question if you dont want other peoples thoughts on it. Try instead to speak to someone you know who knows the situation. Mel

Answer #2

since your underage your guardian or parents can file a rape charge…it ISNT rape but the he can be convicted if it goes to court. rape is defined as having unwanted sex if you wanted it its fine but again I stress the point your parents can press charges and it CAN go to court

Answer #3

In this situation, its not about following your heart, its about knowing whats right, and whats wrong! Hes an adult, and your a minor…enough said!

Answer #4

Umm depends on what state you live in . AIn maryland its legal because there is age gap rules. Go to moral outrage and look up your states age of consent. For ex., in MD 15 and 18 is legal, but 15 and 19 isnt.

Answer #5

YES. It’s called statutory rape even if you say yes or no.. it’s concensual rape. b/c you want to but yes an adult and you’re a child(no offefnding or anything) If someone found out he could go to jail for rape.

Answer #6

3 years is a big age difference when your only 15, and yes its considered statutory rape, he would be considered a sex offender.

Answer #7

I lost my virginity to him when I was 14 and he was 17. so yeah. Also hes been my friend for 6 years. What the fck people. whats done is done. Hes still with me, my mom knows now. Its all good. Just because hes 3 years older than me dosent mean SHT! haha Thanks Baby Doll 7~ you Rock!

Answer #8

NO if he is 18 he can date younger than 18 AND older than 18 IN ALL STATES…if he rapes you he wil face 2 felony charges, but if you consent then he wil be in no trouble…

Answer #9

ugh seriously people grow the fxck up its not fxcking rape. and age doesnt fxcking matter. its just a number. its like saying because on persons black they cant be with a white person seriously. my ex was 23 and he got me pregnant and he left me. okay but its still not rape if I wanted it. he said he would come back and help when I had her he just didnt want to go through the pregnancy stages. but its not rape its love that matters most: ). just follow your heart no matter what other people say: ). <3:Jessyka Nikole: ).

Answer #10

thanks sweet_n_short2 && heathermerie People honestly need to grow up. it is what it is if you want to judge and talk about someone over how old there mate is than your just immature and have nothing better to do with you life than judge them and put the down. people always talk shi and say shi because they have never been in the positiong of dating an older man. I think people should think confident things on it. because one day there little will fall in love with an older man and you as a parent will be there and support them 100%

Answer #11

well I am in the same situation he will b turnin 18 in december and im bout 2 turn 15 this month and I say if yal was together before he was 18 then nobody should say anything and I told my mom about this guy and she is ok because I told her before he turns 18 and she is ok if your parents say its ok then its ok because you and parents are the only people who can really press charges and dont have sex in public because if the police catches you yall both go 2 jail and he will have 2 felony charges

Answer #12

Well, if you wanted it its not rape. however this is considered statutory rape and you technicaly could get him done for it (I dont know why you would if you like him though). My friend is 15 she lost it to a 18 yr old too but she liked him and she wanted too they werent dating tis normal. but say maybe if the girl was like 14 and the guy was say 21 thats a bit weird and gross. there is a line that has to be drawn between ages.

Answer #13

I think like babydoll7 said that you need to go after what you want not everyones opinions on things its your life and you only get one of them. look at me 14 pregnant with twins still with the daddy of the girls and keep my life together. PEOPLE ON HERE NEED TO STOP SAYING AGE MATTERS WHEN IT DOESNT AT ALL SO ANGEL WHAT EVER GROW UP.! AND GET IN THE SITUTATION FOR ATLEAST ONE DAY!!

Answer #14

seriosly people its legally rape but you being together befor 18 and all I dont think anythings wronge with it! people are jerks I don’t know whats wronge with them your almost 18 and im sure your responsible and hes not reall a man till like 25 I still see him as a teenager and just starting the be a man

Answer #15

yes it is rape ! he can go to jail and have felony on his record ( at 16 I got married had 4 daughters with in 7 years and just got divorced after 13 years being married I wish I would have waited till I was older because I started to hate him after a while because in went to our apt to cook clean work chase kids in stead of a dorm party or dating other guys or have some damb quite time,if hes 18 he want a 15 year old because he thinks he controls you

Answer #16

Hello, my boyfriend is 21 && im 16. If you like this boy or you are in love with him id say dont listen to what people say. Yes it is rape but that doesnt mean you see it as rape because to you it probably isnt. I’d say keep following what your heart is saying & dont let people put you && him down because of the age difference because it ISNT a big deal. People make something so small into something so big!!

&& do your parents know?

Hope I helped baby_doll_7

Answer #17

^^They aren’t rude comments, they are TRUTH! Normal adult men, DONT go around dating school age girls!

Answer #18

Don’t listen to what anyone says if they say it’s rape because it’s not,if you consent then it’s not rape so.

Answer #19

yws statutory rape because your not ald enough to say yeah or no

Answer #20

I told you people would say very rude comments to you.

Answer #21

well if he juss turned 18 then not really…

Answer #22

JAILBAIT LOL

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