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im so alone :(

ok… im 14 and I have like no friends. I mean, I have friends but theyre not in my class. theyre on like a whole different part of the campus. in my class, I can get along with people but im really not friends with anyone. there’s three major groups and im not a part of any of them. theres those 3 groups then me. I just dont click with them. they all talk about atupid stuff. they laugh at the dumbest things. and I cant hang around them. I cant. even though this is kind of mean, theyre all idiots. they all avoid me anyways. they dont understand me. they make fun of me. for no reason, too. like im always alone. I dont talk to anyone, and yet they still make fun of me. im like totally alone in my class. I do everything alone. I walk alone in the hall, I sit alone at lunch, I dont talk to anyone. everyone thinks im wierd. even the teachers. seriously, one of them think im the kind of kid that brings a gun to school. if my class understood me or even tried to understand me then maybe I wouldnt be alone. if I was in my best friend’s class then I would be happier. but even then, I see her in the lunchroom I see her with her new friends and im jealous. I honestly am. I know that if I was there in her class then I would be pushed alittle to the side and her new friends mite be before me. I feel like she doesnt really want to be my friend either. I feel like noone wants to be my friend. no one. like I said, they avoid me and ignore me unless theyre making fun of me and I dont know what to do anymore about any of this. im fed up of all the drama and everything thats going on.

I have no life, no friends, nothing, noone cares, I have noone. help

I really need advice on this. someone plzzz :(

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Answer #1

Have you ever considered that they may be avoiding you because you are being overly judgemental? Or that perhaps they aren’t necessarily avoiding you and that you should go to them? When people have a few friends the need for more (or desire to have more) decreases in the majority of cases.

People do tend to pick on people who have less friends because it gives them the opportunity to ‘gang up’ and it is of course wrong. It is often hard to stand up for yourself when you are alone, but you have to find out where this problem began.

I know it is hard, but you do need to be social. From what you have posted I am unable to determine whether or not your judgements have been harsh, but they are still something you have to work on. You have said that in ways you seem to get along with these people and that is a start. Try to interact with a few of them after school or get one of their numbers, etc.

Feeling alone is a terrible thing and I went through the same thing when I moved to a new school. I didn’t like the way a lot of them acted, so I isolated myself for a while. After a while I decided that I had to give things a go instead of acting on what could be foolish prejudgements. I ended up becoming very popular and I owe that to standing up for myself and dismissing inaccurate judgements. Try to interact with people on a one-on-one basis too because people tend to be somewhat multi-faced and will be better people when you get them alone. Of course, I should not be here telling you how to make friends, lol.

Just try to interact with people. The worst that can happen is that you end up in the same position and having no friends in your classes, but at least you will know you tried and that you still have some people who care. Give things a go and see how things go before giving up on anybody :).

Answer #2

im sorry to hear my friend I feel the same way. like a slow whispering inside. I remember 14 but you must understand you will get past it, by 20 you will be a different person my friend

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