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how do I convince my parents to let me date. well my mom is pretty chill but my stepdad...thats a problem I want them to be ok if I bring a boyfriend home to hangout and them be cool with it (im 14)
Parents worry about their little girl when she wants to start dating. This is because parents KNOW it means that their sweet little angel is about to begin experiencing the incredibly awsome thrill of having orgasmic wild sex! Parents know how fantastic sex feels and fear that their daughters could even become addicted to sex! Parents are afraid that the new sex skills their daughter will be learning by dating might be used on the side as an easy way for her to receive fast cash and/or expensive presents! Parents fear that their daughter will not say no to guys who ask her to have sex with them - expecially much older guys who offer her lots of cash and expensive clothes and gifts! After all, who would ever know if she jumped in bed with an older guy for $1,000 cash? No one would ever know and she'd be $1,000 richer! Parents realize that many many daughters do exactly this and they worry. Also, parents are afraid that their little girl might become pregnant after having sex and that this could ruin their little girl's life and hurt their own lives, as well.
Having said all this, you simply need to explain to your parents that you are sufficiently mature to start making decisions for yourself. That your parents need to start trusting your judgement, start respecting your decisions, and start letting you live your own life! Explain that you could easily have just started dating on your own - behind their backs (like many of your MUCH YOUNGER girlfriends have already done!), but that you didn't! This is because you respected your parents enough to come face-to-face with them and you present your request to them in a mature and responsible manner as would certainly be expected from a young woman who understands that this step is a big leap of faith for parents! You need to explain that you will definitely make many mistakes and that these mistakes are yours to make and learn from. Explain to your parents that even though your body belongs to you for you to use it in any way you choose and that your parents can't protect you forever, that even so they should be remain confident that you have been trained by them and will continue to grow and be influenced by their terrific training and that you will make them proud!
If they do decide against letting you date, you will demonstrate great maturity if you don't throw a temper tantrum! Remember that they might just say 'No' only to test you to see if you really are mature! Don't fall into this trap! Good luck!
Parents worry about their little girl when she wants to start dating. This is because parents KNOW it means that their sweet little angel is about to begin experiencing the incredibly awsome thrill of having orgasmic wild sex! Parents know how fantastic sex feels and fear that their daughters could even become addicted to sex! Parents are afraid that the new sex skills their daughter will be learning by dating might be used on the side as an easy way for her to receive fast cash and/or expensive presents! Parents fear that their daughter will not say no to guys who ask her to have sex with them - expecially much older guys who offer her lots of cash and expensive clothes and gifts! After all, who would ever know if she jumped in bed with an older guy for $1,000 cash? No one would ever know and she'd be $1,000 richer! Parents realize that many many daughters do exactly this and they worry. Also, parents are afraid that their little girl might become pregnant after having sex and that this could ruin their little girl's life and hurt their own lives, as well.
Having said all this, you simply need to explain to your parents that you are sufficiently mature to start making decisions for yourself. That your parents need to start trusting your judgement, start respecting your decisions, and start letting you live your own life! Explain that you could easily have just started dating on your own - behind their backs (like many of your MUCH YOUNGER girlfriends have already done!), but that you didn't! This is because you respected your parents enough to come face-to-face with them and you present your request to them in a mature and responsible manner as would certainly be expected from a young woman who understands that this step is a big leap of faith for parents! You need to explain that you will definitely make many mistakes and that these mistakes are yours to make and learn from. Explain to your parents that even though your body belongs to you for you to use it in any way you choose and that your parents can't protect you forever, that even so they should be remain confident that you have been trained by them and will continue to grow and be influenced by their terrific training and that you will make them proud!
If they do decide against letting you date, you will demonstrate great maturity if you don't throw a temper tantrum! Remember that they might just say 'No' only to test you to see if you really are mature! Don't fall into this trap! Good luck!
14 can seem very young to your mom and stepdad - so it is hard for them to see that you are ready.
I think it would be best to ask if he can just come over for dinner - that's it. That way they could meet him and see that he is good for their daughter. Baby steps can lead to a date in the future.
My first "date" was at 14 too and I had the same problems you did - a cool mom but strict step-dad. So I asked if he could come over for dinner and it went really well. Eventually they trusted us to hang out more on our own.
I would also advise you to show your parents that you are responsible and will be mature about this - so respect their opinions, and show them that you have put thought into this and want to show them that you are wanting to follow their rules.
Young girls have an attention span as long as a commercial. If it doesn't have bells and whistles, they are not interested. The problem with young girls dating, it's not good for future dating, why? For one, girls base their emotions on experience. If a guy makes them feel a certain way, and the next guy makes her feel the same way about her ex, dating is out of the question. Or if the guy can't live up to the way others made her felt, then the date is doomed as well. Young boys and girls should enjoy being friends, it's a better experience which avoids future conflicts and bad emotions.
well, I have the same problem. I think that my mom would be better off without my step-dad but, what I would do if I was you, was have a converstaion with them telling them that you want to have your boyfriend over. If that doesn't work, then talk to your mom in private and tell her how you feel. Maybe she could meet him first and then put in a good word for him to your step-dad.
as a victim of such an act, your stepdad and pple like him, the only response to my knowledge is to do it when he isnt home but you can also know that he cares about you and you should be happy by that because my stepdad could care less if I lived or died.
how to convence my sister for sex, once I told her via chating that, I want to press her boobs in closed words. but after that she put me my mother promise that I should not conservate this topic. so, pleas suggest some thing, what to do ?
