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How can I get my parents to give me space?

I’m a senior in highschool and my parents are always on me to do my homework and chores and study for the act… it’s not that I wont do those things, I just would like my parents to let me remember to do them on my own. I’m going off to college and need to know how to be indepedent in less than a year. When i try to get my parents to give me space and stop nagging, my mother just picks a fight with me about something insignificant like cleaning my room or car. How can i get my parents to give me space?

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Answer #1

They are just scared, you are finally going to be away from the homestead & on your own. They want to insure that they have prepared you. As odd as it may seem, before I went away and left and was in college and on my own. My parents, ESPECIALLY my mother. Would harp on me on the (as I thought) were the dumbest things. Understand, they love you & they only want the best for you. The times your mom might complain about you cleaning the car or room, is she wants to make sure that you will take with you, the needed skills that will make life easier for you. These of course, are fundamentals that take time & will have to be learned reinforced (fine tuned if you will) on your own accord later on. As for right now… Sikashimmer is right, The best option is the element of surprise. If you procrastinate that leaves the door wide open. You know what they expect of you. Take away their means of artillery by not giving them the time do act or say anything.

You have enough time later on in life to learn that washing a few dishes every time you have them, and as well as with clothes and tidiness, make it much easier to manage.

Good luck with all you aspire! ~Benjamin~

Answer #2

Start doing those things BEFORE they say something to you. Show them that you are responsible and don’t need them to constantly nag and remind you.

Answer #3

Dear Undecided,

Try and do this…When they tell you to do your homework..just do it . Say “OK”…

If they still pick fights then funmail me back.

This will allow you to determine if they have different motives. Do not worry about being independent, this will come soon enough. You wanting to be independent is a good sign that tells me you are ready for the world…ready to take on the challenges and going after your dreams!! REMEMBER…Just because we are parents does not mean we are perfect. We try!! Hopefully they are doing what they are doing because they love you, and hopefully they let you know this. Familycoach

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