I Need Some Advice

So, it’s like 5:12 A.M. here and I can’t sleep! Ugh! I’ve been having a few questions in my head and I can’t seem to answer them by myself.

1.) At night, I constantly think of my girlfriend. I can’t sleep because she’s in my head. When I fall asleep, she’s in my dreams. I know this sounds romantic and all, but it isn’t. In my dreams I’m with her and as soon as I go into the “moment”(Anything, kissing, marrying, sex, etc.), something bad happens to me and I wake up. I feel “sweaty and aroused”, but it’s not a wet dream nor did I soil myself. These dreams are really weird. One minute I’m proposing to her and the next, I’m being pulled away and she gets further and further as I scream for her. Why do I have dreams like this and wake up this way? Is it normal? Am I going crazy?

2.) I’ve been feeling kind of lonely these last few weeks as I’m in Texas until August and we’re a 1hr. difference which makes it hard for us to talk. I try to feel happy for her, but I’m so sad. I don’t want to tell her I am upset or else she’ll be sad too. Being so far, is there anything I can do? I call everyday, but it doesn’t seem like enough…

Can anyone help me with my problems? I want to be a good boyfriend because I really love her. It’s been 1yr. 6 months so far. I just need some helpful advice.

Answer #1

Thanks for the help, I guess I was just missing her a little too much for myself to handle. I really do love her with all my heart. I just feel negative when she’s with friends ‘cause I start to think she’s complaining how I don’t do certain things.

I can’t wait til I get back. I woke her up this morning with a call and before I even said a word she was saying sorry to me how she fell asleep. I usually blow up at her over it, but I just said “It’s okay. Did you sleep well?” “Ah, I’m sorry, I’m such a bad girlfriend.” “No, I’m not mad at you, I love you.” “You should be mad.”

Oh, does anyone know how to send a package through the mail? Like a few things in a box? I’ve been wanting to send a gift, but can’t seem to know how. I’m a computer genius, but can’t figure out how to mail a box of things to a girl. xP

Answer #2

yeah I think because of the hour difference you want to have sex with her or marry her in your dreams because thats like a bonding a sense of security and closeness, I think you need to take a few days and go visit her even if your teens, and if your a virgin tbh I think you need to get laid it’d put your mind to rest

Answer #3

Relationships can often be unpredictable. You may spend time analysing conversations trying to decipher moods, and running various scenarios through your head during the day. So it only makes sense that our subconscious would also try to evaluate our relationships during our sleeping hours.

Our psyche may be looking for signals of love or warnings of betrayal. Our dreams of relationships change as we age and learn more about interaction and communication.

This type of experience, when unpleasant, is usually associated with lack of progress by the dreamer to recognize and solve related conflicts in life.

Answer #4

Aww, yeah, I think its best you talk to her. The whole 1 hour thing may be the cause of your dreams. You can’t be away from her which shows how much in love With her you are. Dreams about being pulled away, scream? Meaning Your afraid of losing her. The doubts, thoughts.. Forqet Them if she’s with you and she tells you she really loves You that’s all that matters. Stop thinking negative.. Thatl end up driving you insane. Just be happy that you guys are together And stop doubting what she says, goodluck with your relationship.

Answer #5

hmm. That doesn’t sound too normal to me. I believe you might simply be afraid of losing her because you’re not there to be her man and she might turn to someone else to fullfill those duties. I suggest you have a talk with her when possible and share how you’re feeling and ask for her word. You need that spoken assurance from her in order to let go and feel at ease about the situation. If she loves you and is committed to you, she’ll have no problem giving you her word and letting you hear it.

Good luck bro.

Answer #6

I don’t know what to do, it’s driving me nuts. I am a virgin btw. We said no sex until marriage, so it’s still nothing for me…yet. I trust her every word, but sometimes I feel sceptical in what she says like when she talks to her friends, I kinda try to wonder what she’s saying about me.

Maybe I’m just being stupid and overreacting, but that still doesn’t explain why I’m having these dreams.

Answer #7

You can head to a nearby post office and get a box there, and stamps as well. I think it’s really sweet that you love her so much. Text her a bunch, with stuff like ‘I love you.’ and ‘I miss you so much.’. Hope everything goes well.

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