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I need a blessing from god to move in?

The story is that my boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now. I am 19 he is 21. We thought about moving in with each other and it wouldn’t be for a while longer and plus we were just talking about it. So I told my Mother and we said nothing to his Mother… because we were just talking about it. But my Mother talked to his Mother and well you can guess what happend. lol. But I didn’t think that it would be such a problem but to his Mother it was. She talked to me and said that I need to wait for a blessing from God… and that I should wait to see where life brings me. And made it clear about “a blessing from God” meaning marriage of course. All I am thinking is what is best for me and my boyfriend. And weddings cost soo much I don’t understand why I should spend lots of money for a wedding just to say I love this man that I am with and I want to live with him. I am not the average 19 year old an I have been told that. Before my boyfriend now I was in a three year relationship , and I realized that this three year relationship was not what I wanted.. and I sure was not reciving what I deserved. I have dated guys.. and it only helped me learn.. a lot! I now know what a real relationship is.. and what real love is. It’s more than just some feeling inside.. or going out on a date. A real relationship takes a lot of strength, trust , understanding , communication and so much more. And I have them with my boyfriend and I have never felt better about myself and I have never had so much ambition and love for another person. ( it took him almost 5 months for him to say that he loved me! And when he said it I knew he actually ment it.) To add his mother also mentioned to him about marrying me. So please help. Sorry its soo long and thank you for taking your time to read this… it means a lot to me. I am in a real great relationship and I want what is best for both of us… well thats what it comes down to anyways. Thanks again! XO

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Answer #1

If you have all the things you mentiones such as trust,strength,communication and much more why do you questions marriage? Geting married can cost very little even, you dont need a big wedding atleast not right now. Follow your moms advice it is the advice that will work best for you not because she says it because it is what you believe also. Deep inside you know she is right and hopefully he will know as well. Live a good life based on what you have learned from your years of beleiving in God. God doesnt make mistakes we certainly can when we choose to do things our own ways.God has taught us these things not to punish us but to keep us from being hurt and it applies to everyone. Listen to your mother she is only telling you what she has learned through her faith in God. Marry him if you wish and then take the next step which is living together, dont start from back to front, be patient you guys will have many years together so whats the hurry?Plan a wedding and save if you want a large wedding. Godd things comes to those who wait and it will build your character as well as his, waiting will fortify your love on on your wedding day you will know why it was important to wait until then do not doubt Gods ways. Pray and you will get the same answer. May God bless you both.

Answer #2

I agree that the choice is YOURS and not the mothers…reguardless but I would suggest doing some research on living together before marriage.

Here are a few links that might help with some facts…you just dont want to be lead by emotion alone, especially when you really love someone!

http://www.leaderu.com/critical/cohabitation-socio.html

http://archives.cnn.com/2002/US/07/24/cdc.marriagereport/index.html

Best of luck!

Answer #3

I think you actually have to live with someone before knowing if you can marry them.

I live with my bf and he can get REALLY annoying and anal retentive sometimes. But I still love him, of course :)

Marriage is being together as one… but if you two completely clash then it’s going to be like trying to mix oil and water!

Answer #4

Well the thing is I understand where his mother is coming from.. taking time and all. But my mom told me that his mother wouldn’t allow it because of her religion. That really bothers me bcause I have been baptised Catholic.. but I don’t fallow any religion. And I don’t appriciate someone trying to make my decisions based on a religion. The other night I was under the covers with my BF (fully clothed) And she doesn’t even allow that. Plus my BF doesn’t even follow his mothers religion… so I have no clue what to do. My mother says that my BF should talk to his Mom. I just find that religion causes more problems then there needs to be. So I don’t know? lol Help some more please. Thanks

Answer #5

I really do agree with bubux007 and skiashimmer alot. I know you really love your boyfriend alot. What his mother said was the right thing. I do go to church which I am a bapisit. I do believe in god. God does have a purpose in all of our lives and let us deal with our own choices. Just think long and hard for what his mom said. Maybe then you and her might agree. If not I am sorry. Just have another talk with her and see what she says. Ya’ll might agree with some things. But not alot. Let her come around and see what happens. Just do what is right. Your boyfriend’s mother is right about the marriage thing that you and your boyfriend should be thinking about. But you really do need to understand her and where she is coming from. I hope this will help alot.

Answer #6

You two have to do what you want regardless of what his mother says. I moved in with my bf and I’ve gotten alot of scorn from it. My twin sis who is married and very baptist refuses to stay over because she doesn’t want to be in a “house of sin”. I think all of that is nonesense!

I say do what you want to do because they are family and have to love you anyways, and if they don’t then they have to live with that.

Answer #7

“sikashimmer” is absolutely right. You are at the best age to try out the life. God, if wants, will bless your love if when it is deep enough.

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