Should I wait for him?

I like this guy,Tommy and we’ve been friends for about a year now.Internet friends,but we go to school together.We don’t talk in school,and I don’t know why.On the other hand,I liked him,basically since the day I let eyes on him,and when I finally told him my true feelings for him,he said that he could care less.I was hurt,but suprisingly got over it.

At the end of January,Tommy then said that he had sexual feelings for me,if you know what I mean,and that he wanted to have sex with me.To be honest with you,I was thinking that he was joking,but he wasn’t.The next day at school,to see if he was serious,I told him to kiss me,and he did.At the time,I’ve never been kissed before.

I go home on the computer.He said that he liked me,and then about 10 minutes later,he said he used me.My friend said that Tommy was looking for me,but I was away on the computer,and she said that he would find a way,to get laid by me,even though I was having mixed thoughts.

No,we never had sex,but then again,I did like him.I wanted him to take me serious,but he never seemed to.I don’t know why.But in a way,he did give me “signs,” that maybe,he had feelings for me.

So,I go to my homecoming dance yesterday,and there he is,with his girl,who I used to be friends with,years ago.So,now,they’re going out,and he seemed to be really happy with her,but for some odd reason,I got a glimpse of him,staring at me a couple of times.Why?,I may never know.So,in your honest opinion,what should I do?Wait around for him,or move on with my life.

I still,truly like him,a lot,but I’m afraid to now since he has this new girl in his life.I still want him to be happy,but I don’t want to be the one,left hurt and upset.

Sincerely, Danielle

Answer #1

You are being very stupid, and naive here! Why would you wanna be with him, when he only wants you for sex? He has told you that, and you seem to be flattered by it! He will only be using you, and you dont even care! You told him how you felt about him, and he said he could care less, then you wanted to see if he was serious about wanting to have sex with you, so you told him to kiss you, and he did. By doing that, you were letting him know that you would take him up on his pathetic offer. Do you have any morals? I cant believe there are girls out there who will do whatever it takes to get a boy, even if he justs wants to use her for sex. Wheres your self worth? Sex will NOT get a boy to like you, or commit to you. This boy is a selfish jerk, who is only thinking about his own needs. He doesnt care about you, only what he can get from you. If you cant see that, or just dont care, then i suggest you stop writing about this loser.

Answer #2

It doesn’t matter how many times you ask this question - you will receive the same responses. You should never have waited for him. This Tommy boy is not interested you as a girlfriend. Accept that and MOVE ON. You don’t owe yourself to anyone, let alone to a boy who’s made it clear that he only wants you for sex.

Find another guy and MOVE ON. Geez.

Answer #3

Don’t waste your time on him , he’s playing about with your emotions and probably just wanting to have sex…i think you already really know that. If you had a friend that was being treated that way i bet you’d tell her to move on and forget him… I’m wondering what there really is to like about this guy. ???

Answer #4

well in my opinion i dont no honestly cause it is how u feel and it is ur life but the thing that is hart to get over is the fact he used u but he might have changed u may never no but he could have. so go with it and see what happens and try to get him back but not to hard work him over and get him lookin at u when u walk by and then make him fall for ya, ya no what i mean it is fun at the same time good for you so you no how he is thinkin he might still be the way he was but he might have changed but do that and see how long it takes and keep him folowin afta ya just make sure you dont go to far!!!

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