Why do I feel like the rape was my fault?

its deff. not your fault.my aunt was rapped about 3 or 4 weeks ago. she is 40 something. & she is a lesbian. one of her friends she has know since high school beat her & rapped her. DO NOT blame yourself. im sure he held you down or sumthing where you couldnt get up. & when your in a position like that you dont know what too do.

it is normal to feel its yur fault because I was molested for 7 years and I am 14 and I also had an attempted rape against me and wenever I think about it I think its my fault so yur not alone and sum ways to cope with the feeling is to talk about it with sum one yu trust. hope this helped

oh my god you poor girl. You could have been wearing a ton of make-up and a skirt 2 mm long and he’d still have no right to do what he done. have you reported it or are you thinking about it?

I dont know… I’ve talked to people who were raped, and I’ve had my own issues… I’ve been in therapy for 2 years, and I still think its my fault. I dont know how to make you feel better, but it is pretty common to feel responsible (maybe if you’re responsible then you’re in control and if you’re in control it wont happen again?). But whatever the reason, it wasnt your fault. You need to try and believe that… because even if you’re naked and in bed, no still means no…

it’s not your fault, but in most cases girls think that it is there fault because they feel that they could have done more to stop it, but sometimes when someone is being raped their mind shuts down to block what is happening. it is not your fault, will never be your fault. you need to report that you got raped as soon as possible. even if he was your boyfriend. he should know better than that and is a sick guy for doing that.

being raped isn’t necessarily something you bring on.. some sick pervert just does it.