I dont know what to do

The person above me makes a good point, but at the same time, that is one extremely weak man. He probably already had feelings for that girl, and finally founded an excuse to act on them. But I say that you should respect what your husband is feeling. He’s probably upset enough not being able to be home with you.

..It doesn’t matter if YOU can trust him. Marriage is a two-way street.

Flip it.

How would you feel if, say, you were in the Air Force, and while you were away, your husband wanted some woman who had a crush on him in high school was coming to stay with him. I know you wouldn’t like that.

Go with what your husband has to say. There’s no reason why a man should be staying at your house while your husband is over seas. If you’d like to hang out with him I don’t see a problem with that, but staying with you? That’s a bit much.

Yes reb1312 makes a very good point. You need to look at things from not only your husband’s perspective, but from a bystander’s perspective. Anyone in their right mind would fear that something might happen and that he might try something. Your husband obviously appreciates you waiting for him, but you do need to remember the basics of trust. Your friend would understand if/ why your husband is a bit uneasy about this.

You’ve made the right choice :)!

you have a point I have deciede to hang out with him at my dad’s instead of at my apartment.. I just dont see why my husband can’t trust him… I mean I can but hell I have been wrong before