What to say to him?

Okay, I need relationship advice :T Here’s the story [it’s really long, but yeah.] :

So I met this guy…we’ll call him Tom. I met him in August, and we instantly clicked. We talked on the phone for hours, and he was a really great guy. We only lived a few towns away from each other, which is just a 20 minute drive. The problem started when he left for college. He is three years older than I am. I’m a sophomore in high school, and he’s a freshman in college. He went to college 6 hours by train from here. We called each other every night, non-the-less, and it was pretty obvious that we both had feelings for each other. Tom was really sweet and I felt like I could talk to him about anything, but I still wasn’t sure if I really wanted to get into a relationship with him, because he’s older, more experienced, and went to school so far away.

Then I met this other guy, we’ll call him Chris. I started liking Chris, and he seemed like the better choice, cause he lives close, he’s my age, and he was really cute too. He also liked me back, so I ended up choosing Chris. Tom got pretty beat up over it, and we ended up arguing a lot, talking about it, and I ended up crying a lot too. It was a really messy time.

I started going out with Chris, and Tom and I managed to patch things up, and we stayed good friends. Chris and I broke up after 2 months, because I just didn’t feel a connection between us. Tom and I were still really close friends, but things were obviously different. He transferred out of his college, and moved to a much closer school [only an hour or two away from home, so he comes home a lot during the weekend] and became really busy with his music major.

Lately we haven’t been talking as much anymore, and at first he said it was because he was really busy with his studies, but I had the feeling it was also something else. I miss him now, and I miss the way things used to be. I’m not sure if I have feelings for him, but now that I look back on it, I was really selfish. Tom had tried to make things work out between us, and he always used to call me between his classes, introduced me to his friends, and when Chris and I broke up, he even drove to my house [from his house] just to give me my favorite flavor ice cream, to make me feel better.

I guess now he doesn’t call me much, we don’t click when we talk, and he told my friend, “I want to to her, THIS is how I felt before, but I won’t because it’s too mean.” It makes me feel horrible, because now I know how he felt before.

I want to talk to him now, but I don’t know where to begin. I’ve been so stupid and selfish…is it too late to save this relationship?