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Whoever is reading my question, I must warn you that this is pretty long. Here it goes.
I absolutely don’t know what to do. I am so desperately lonely because I have never ever been in a relationship. I think the only guy I want to be with is my best friend. However, I am a little concern about our situation. He lives in Iowa while I am stuck in Ohio. We’ve known each other for almost five years. We’ve known what makes us mad and know what makes us happy. He is like my other clone because he and I like almost everything. For instance, we love cars, anime, video games, action movies, all types of music except for country and polka, and many more. I’ve started to have deeper feeling for him sometime in January. I don’t know if he felt the same around that time because his ex girlfriend sure had a problem about us being friends. One minute he mentions my name and next thing I knew, I get a nasty message from myspace. She wanted him to stop being my friend and he dumped her because of that. Later that time, we told one another about our fantasies (he brought it up). I told him one of them and he told me his. I be damned if he and I have the same thing, but I didn’t tell him that because I think it would be too weird. Then, we’ve recently told each other that we have deeper feelings for one another. I think it was too deep because I can feel him trying to say “I love you”… I know I really wanted to say it, but that would be to damn weird. Anyways, He told me that he’s been looking for a girl like me, but doesn’t want “to ruin something that is already perfect and stable”. I told him that no matter what happens, I will always be his friend. Well, I think that kind of change. I don’t know if he is playing games with me or what. He is always telling me that different women are throwing themselves at him. It’s always “some girl gave me her number, but I don’t know if I should call lol” and that seems to be an everyday thing. He was interested with 3 other women and talked about writing one of them a love letter because he “thought that was the love of his life”. However, that didn’t happen. He gave up trying to write a three page latter. Now, he is not interested in anybody, but really wants me to visit him sometime in 08 and suggest that I should live in Iowa. I would love too, but my mother is certainly not going to let me go because she over protective, even though I am about to turn 20. I will visit him probably during spring or summer. Anyways, what should I really do? Do you think he is bringing up women so I can lose interested in him? Think he might have something planned out in 08? Please give me your thoughts. Thank you very much :-D
I really dont think he wants you to "miss" him. Thats an awfully long time to miss someone. If he truly "loved you", he wouldnt want to wait that long for you to come visit him. Look at all the signs here....Youve known each other for 5 long yrs. You know what makes you both happy. You have alot in common. Those are signs of a deep friendship. Youve just told each other you have deeper feelings for one another. Then you go on to say, "I think it was too deep because I can feel him trying to say “I love you”…I really think that if he truly did love you, he would have said that instead of saying that he has "deep" feelings. (whatever that means) Then he said, "He told me that he’s been looking for a girl like me, but doesn’t want “to ruin something that is already perfect and stable”. Right there is where he is basically telling you he likes things the way they are between you, and doesnt want to ruin it. It means he thinks of you as his very close friend. Someone he can share his feelings with (about other girls) He already knows how you feel about him, but yet he is more interested in talking about OTHER GIRLS.
If he hasnt acted on those "deep" feelings yet, then what do you think he is waiting for? Hes waiting for the "love of his life" to come along.
I know exactly how he feels, because IM the one that misleads alot of my guy friends on the very same way he is doing to you. I dont mean to, its just that guys are easy to talk to about guy stuff. He probably feels he can come to you with all of his girl problems.
I know this isnt what you wanted to hear, but i really feel that he only has deep feelings of friendship for you, and nothing more. You two have known each other for a very long time. I would think something would happen by now if he felt "love" for you, but all these other girls that come into his life is all he seems to be concerned about.
I have to go, but i really wanted to reply to this. If you want to talk, please funmail me!
Good Luck!
im thinking that its not that he wants you to loose interest in him but rather he wants you to miss him..hes pushing you to see if you are going to say anything or do anything..hes testing his waters to see how much you really want him. in other words hes like a 2 year old playing peek a boo..one minute hes there practically throwing himself at you telling you he loves you and the next minute there he is hiding and pushing you to see what you would do. he very well might have something planned for '08 just dont get your hopes up too high.. i say its not weird and that you should just come out and tell him you love him. thats one way of knowing for sure whats going on in his head. and as for you moving. your 20 years old. you can not live with your mother forever no matter how much she wants to keep you there for the rest of your life. you have to live your own life. no matter what she says ..she is your mother and she will get over it. move with him. goodluck i hope it works out in your favor. =]
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