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Ok so I’ve had sex twice now and both times I can’t cum… I feel bad cause my boy can cum and then he tells me that I don’t want him if I don’t cum, I really do want him it’s just well I don’t know I don’t cum but I can make my self cum like when I’m alone… Ugh I don’t know but I really wanna fix it…

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Answer #1

Explore - but a good position to help things along - is if he sits on the edge of the bed and you sit in his lap facing him - you do the work till you find your G-spot - its all still new it takes some girls years to have an orgasm from sex - so try not to worry just enjoy your time together - but remember to keep things safe - just reassure him you love every minute - or you could just get him to finish you off the way you do like the others have said. Good Luck hun x

Answer #2

qcumbr1 is spot on. A large portion of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm and simply can’t with vaginal intercourse alone. Another thing to consider is since you have only had sex twice you most likely haven’t figured out what you really like yet. It will get better as you both learn! It would also seem that your boyfriend has the common misconception that if a woman doesn’t have an orgasm then she isn’t enjoying herself.I would suggest being straight up with him and letting him know that you enjoy it even if you don’t have an orgasm, and politely suggest and show him how you touch yourself so he can learn. Good luck!

Answer #3

Not every woman has an orgasm during intercourse. Since you know how to make yourself cum with masturbation, you should show your boyfriend how to do that, or masturbate during intercourse. I doubt your boyfriend will have a problem with you touching yourself during sex.

Answer #4

you just dont know how to. but you can learn by simply experimenting

Answer #5

well maybe he doesnt know how to seduce you. let him know how you like to be aroused.

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