Why can't I figure this man out?

ok,long story,I met a man ,and for me,from day one I fancy’d the pants off him,and he told me that he felt the same,we didnt really see much of each other cause of his work times,but when we did it was gr8,we ended up sleeping togeather on a few occasions,then I told him I thought I might love him,he said it didnt scare him off,as I was worried it might of,anyway the next day he wouldnt answer none of my calls,or return my tex’s,then late that night we spoke and he told me he didnt want what I wanted,as in a man to be with me and realtionship,he says still,he fancys the hell out of me,but he hasnt made any effort to tex,ring me,what do you think I should do,cause certain things he does make me think hes confused,as in on one of his profiles on a internet site,wich we used to talk on,he has a song,wich the words say “I dont wana run away but I cant take it I dont understand” and maybe its just me being stupid ,but it feels like hes saying what he wanted to say through that song,im sssooo confused any advice

Answer #1

You are being very naive here. I have alot of experience with guys, especially the type your speaking about. Even though you are almost 22, NEVER, EVER sleep with a guy before he commits to you. Guys really arent that complicated if you think about it. Sex is on their mind 24/7, and if they come across a girl whos willing to give it to them…theyre gonna take it! It then leaves girls like you feeling confused, because you now think that there is something going on between you and him, when he was most likely only using you. When a guy doesnt call you after having a sexual encounter with them,chances are he was just looking for some fun. When you told him you might be falling in love with him…well, thats really not what he wanted to hear, and not what he was looking for. Just because you like someone, and they like you back, doesnt mean that you should sleep with them. Get to know them, by talking and just hanging out, NOT sleeping with them! He got what he wanted from you, and now he doesnt want you anymore! You wont ever get respected by a guy if your going to give in sexually to him soo soon, and without being in a relationship! Sex wont make a guy love you, OR commit to you!

Answer #2

It doesnt matter how old she is. Sometimes everybody gets confused.

No, not really. Especially not by something like this.

Answer #3

It sounds like he doesn’t really know what he wants, he might enjoy your company and the sex but is probably too scared to settle down with just one person at this stage. You need to make a time that you can sit him down and get him to open up with you and tell you exactly whats going on in his mind and let him know how you feel. If he’s not bothering to contact you its a pretty good indication that he only wants you when it suits him. Talk to him and get to the root of the problem. good luck !!

Answer #4

That is rude. She is asking for advice not to be ridiculed. It doesnt matter how old she is. Sometimes everybody gets confused. My advice is to give him a bit of space. I knwo im probably not as experienced as you with dating becuase oyu are fairly older than me.. but this is all i can give.He probably does fancy you.. maybe hes just confused..commitment can scare people if they dont see it coming..just wait a bit and he will cool down

Answer #5

Sounds like classic a “HIT IT & QUIT IT” to me…

Answer #6

I can’t believe you’re almost twenty-two.

Figure out yourself first, then you just might be able to figure out men.

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