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I Can'tOrgasm!HELP!

okay, so a couple of days ago I posted a question sayingthat I was a virgin and didn’t want to suck my first time, now that my boyfriend and I are having sex (every freakin day) I have a new problem. I haven’t climaxed, I’m so worried there’ssomething wrong with me, he wantsme to so much and I can’t. I’ve never masterbated, occasionally I have tried but couldn’t even get myself aroused let alone orgasm. I just don’t know what to do, becausethis hasen’t happened I feel that I can’t get super excited for sex, and I don’t want him to think he can’t please me, the sex does feel good but themost I’ve really gotten is all tingly, no “expolsion” as people have described. Whats wrong with me?! How do I fix it?!

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Don’t worry, it just takes time to learn about your body and what makes you feel good. There is nothing wrong with you. Masturbation can help to experiment and learn about how it works but you can also learn with your boyfriend. My very first advice is: Patience :-) Yup, patience is needed here for many reasons the most important of all is that taking your time will actually make your and his experience so much better. I suggest a lot of feeling up and foreplay, the more excited you are the easier orgasm will be to reach. You might also want to try just concentrating on you (ex.: let him try oral sex on you or just fondling you, learn about your clitoris!) it can be easier when you just relax and let him explore your body. Boys also need to learn to control their orgasm so that penetration last longer. He should practice pulling out and stopping so sex last longer. Generally women don’t orgasm because they aren’t excited enough, sex doesn’t last long enough or they loose their concentration (ex.: instead of relaxing you start worrying about stuff). here’s a good site to start: http://www.the-clitoris.com/

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