Will my Mom know that we have sex?

sue90>>>

I never put my mother in any kind of situation. My relationship with my boyfriend has been long distance for quite some time now. Well, not now since we aren’t together. But we were together for 3 years. She loves him. She wanted him to come and spend time with me and my family this last summer. I wouldn’t say she was being a bad mom by doing that. He stayed in a guestroom on the downstairs part of the house, my room is upstairs. I never promised her anything, and she never asked beforehand. I do not throw tantrums to “get what I want.” If I was to ask my mom if he could come here and she said no, I’d accept it. No means no.

Well from looking at your profile that says that you are almost 20 years old, maybe it’s time to tell you’re mom about your experience, because it sounds like you haven’t been with many people, maybe she will understand and quit putting so much pressure on you to be so perfect! She will not disown you unless she is crazy! She is just threatening you because she wants to contol and influence your life. My dad was like that until I was 18, and as soon as I graduated, me and my boyfriend (who is now my husband) moved in together and he actually accepted it when I talked to him about it! Do you rely on them for college or something, because you could easily become independent and get loans to help and live in a dorm or an apartment with a few other people. Your mom will have to get over it if you are ever going to have a decent relationship with her, just let her know that you are an adult and what you do from now on is your business. Do you have a job? If you don’t , you could get one to support yourself even more. Eventually she will come around. If she disowns you what will she tell everyone, “She’s not my daughter anymore because she had sex?!” That’s ridiculous! Just remember, she is the one with the problem, not you!

Dear lazarus, I will assume you live at home…my first question is why did she let him stay at your home for 3 weeks? If your mother was so concerned why would she let him stay with you??? Your mother wasn’t being a very strong parent, she should have told you no. You were not being fair either for putting your mother in this situation. We don’t know if you promised you’d behave while he was there or if you took a tantrum and she gave in? Regardless of how he ended up with you I think this whole thing was very predictable. As you can see lies will snowball and now you have to deal with the thought of her testing the condoms…lets hope it’s a lesson well leaned. Sue…good luck

I suppose what happened was: your mother trusted you and you betrayed her trust. You, of all people, know your mother is religious and wouldn’t want you to have sex without anyone until you’re married. When you “never promised her anything, and she never asked beforehand,” you were simply using a favorite technique many teenagers are fond of. If I were your mother, that is the one thing that would disappoint me most: that you know I wouldn’t approve but you did it anyway. Most parents today will never disown their children no matter how much they want to, so take heart.

In the meantime, you still live under her roof. It doesn’t matter how old you are because as long as you’re still dependent on your mother, you will follow her rules.

My dad was the same way. I know how you feel. Keep them in your purse . Your purse is youe no go zone for other people.I used to keep them in an envolope behind a poster on my wall. No one ever thing of looking there. If your mom is a snooper she wont find anything there. lol It works. I kept everything hidden behind my posters. Put then in an envolope and tape it behind your poster. They fit, and their flat. That was a cleaver story you told your mom. good one.

She will probably figure that you do or might anyway, how old are you?