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Hi I'm 17 years old and I have about had it with my mom and step dad. Now I know 9 out 10 teens say this because they are just rebellious but I literally can't stand it. My step dad calls me a fuck up and constantly agrees with my mom, even if she is completely wrong. I am babied and she takes everything way out of proportion even when I constantly try to see if I can trust her. I told her the people I hang out with can be pot heads and about 80% of my high school does that stuff. I tell her the things I do around town, and I never really keep secrets, but now it's just insane. It constantly comes around and bites me in the butt because she never gives me space and contradicts herself with her term of "tough love." Now the straw that broke the camels back was tonight. For the past few weeks my friend has been kicked out of his house permanently. He is 20. He took his brothers Adderall and his mother found out. Now I can understand why he got kicked out and stuff but what pisses me off, is that he is my friend. Been friends for a few years, but my mom now feels he is a "bad influence." Again understandable but now she is trying to find his mom and butt into his life because she thinks their is more to it. She even called the sheriff and police. We have a local skate park and she comes down with my step dad pissed because my friend called her a cunt on the phone because she is driving herself into his life and butting in without his permission. Now I do agree that calling her names was a bit much but what she is doing is far worse. I finally told my step dad tonight to leave me alone your not my dad and he calls me a fuck up and she does nothing but continue to yell at me. I have been to a councilor with my mom but it never helped. We just yell at each other. She cares and is over protective way to much and is blinded by it to even do anything rational but b*tch me out and tell me to go home. I hate my home life and she constantly patronizes me with the "you think you know everything." Well mom I do have a right to defend myself and more so, just because your 50 doesn't mean you know everything either. I can be blinded myself with anger to not see my faults in things but tonight I can see real clearly that I am done with this. Emancipation right now is what I want. Yes, I do know that I will no longer be under their financial supervision and that I am 100% on my own. I would rather have a job and go to school myself attempting life then go through this. I have had thoughts of suicide before do to a hard school life but now I picture it now just to get away from everything. Suicide is never the way but when you feel like this, it's easy to understand how people can kill themselves sometimes. Please someone help me. I can't talk with my mom and school is a no go because I don't have the best of grades and I'm in this community of the parent is always right thing. Anybody out their with some real deal advice about how to get emancipated!!!?
I'm an honest person so I will be completely honest with you. After reading your story..I have a few thoughts. First of all that is messed up that your step dad is calling you names and stuff. Not cool at all by any means. It sounds like your mom just bes alll the time at you for you hanging out with the people you hang out with because they do stupid things and she bes because she doesn't want you to be stupid just like them. I don't know you or your mom...but from what you said I'll state my opinion on. I think you are 17 and yeah your mom is 50. She DOES know a lot more than you do. I WENT THRU THE SAME THING. Everyone always thinks it's better off with out all the bing..but when you really look at it..why do they b? BECAUSE THEY CARE. You're better than the people you chill with and the things you do. Your mom could probably give a s*** less about your friend as a person in general. BUT He called your mom a name. He insulted YOUR MOTHER. How much respect do you think this kid has for you if he is going to call YOUR mom names. You don't always have to agree with your mom 100 % of the time..or even 5% of the time...but I'll be damned if someone calls my family any name. BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER. Your friend might be your friend now..but think about it..how long will you guys be friends..u are only friends with him because he is cool and you are both in the same places in your life...what does he want in life..what do you want...WHERE EVER you ARE IN YOUR LIFE YOUR FAMILY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE TO B*** AND TO SUPPORT. Your friend steals from his OWN family??? If he does that what makes you think he has a problem stealing from you??? Your step dad sounds like he is supporting your mom which is what married couples do. I'm not saying your mom is right for calling you names or your step dad...but give her a break...what if it was your daughter...what if it was you getting called names...any GOOD mother would call the cops. You have bad grades because your priorities aren't straight. You wanna be on your own? You think it will be better? Girl, I pay $1000 a month ...JUST TO GET BY. AND THAT IS NOTHING COMPARED TO SOME people I work two jobs and go to school just to make a living...and you wanna know why I moved out? I couldn't take all the complaining and the b***in and the list goes on...but when you're really out there all by yourself..you get to thinkin who REALLY cared...and your friends wanna come over just to party..but you start to worry about gettin the carpet dirty or gettin to sleep on time because if you miss work..your will lose your job..and your place..and your on the streets. If you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always gotten. I don't think emancipation is the right answer...sometimes it's easier if you put your foot in your mother's shoes...and THAT is the FIRST step. Not to mean any disrespect durin this whole thing..just being honest...I think you'll make a big mistake if you try to get emancipated.
