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I know its long but I would really appreciate the help please. Well let me tell you the situation here first. I was living with a abusive, mentally insane EX- mother for most of my life. There was a climax in the situation in September of ‘09 to where she started calling the police on me for nothing. So I was arrested a couple of times leading up to a court case. Until that point I had almost no contact with my father my whole life, but when he heard I had gotten arrested and the cause was her he stepped in and got me lawyers and things to help me. In turn the case was dismissed and I am now living with him, my step- mother, younger half brother, and younger half sister. Before all of this happened me and my girlfriend had gotten engaged and have been planning the wedding ever since :] The wedding is still a little ways off but, how and when should I tell my dad? He will tell my step mother about it cause that’s what he does, I trust him some, but can I trust him enough to tell him this while I have only lived with him for 4 months? Should I tell him at all yet? My ex- mother and that whole other side of my family is out of the picture for good, so they will never hear a thing about anything ever again. But what do you think I should do?

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Answer #1

I think you should go ahead and tell your dad if he’s a understanding person. Explain him your plans after the marriage and make him think that you are ready for it. Overall, its a good idea to tell important things such as this kind ealier, rather than leaving it to the last minute.

Goodluck!

Answer #2

I think you should tell your dad, he will be happy for you, and then tell him not to tell who you dont want him to tell,, does that make sense? : ) well Good luck with your Girlfriend, many wishes to the happy couple : )

and Good Luck with your mum and dad : )

x x x

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