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Being able to acheive orgasm and much more then just the physical motions of it all. It demands that you let go and release your your inhibitions. If you put too much pressure on yourself, you might be forgetting to have fun and relax. Some women are more clitoral, other more vaginal. That is to say orgasm can be acheived by either two. It usualy takes longer for women then for men which at times explains why women have a hard time reaching orgasm. Most women need extra stimulis and longer foreplay before penetration or orgasm. Now that you are open to the idea of discovering your body, it’s just a question of taking the time to understanding how it works.

I’d also like to add that I think that you are extremely brave to face this after all this time. It must have been especialy hard to admit this to your husband and I am very touched that you love yourself and him enough to be honest therefore working towards a happier, healthier relationship. However, the fact that you have spent over 25 years of your denying your sexuality will have affects on how you perceive your sexuality, your body and physical pleasure. Therapy should help but remember it will take some time before deconstructing all those negative mental patterns and frustrations that have build up over the years. Try to be patient and enjoy discovering this new side to yourself. You’ve been holding yourself back for so long, now is the time to let go of the old you and learn to have fun with yourself. Best wishes, Zor