How to make xmas day nice/fun?

Bah, I know it ‘s family, but that makes no right to have to force anything on them. Tell them next year your not having a party, and just invite the family that don’t bicker and complain. If they find out you had a small party without them, tell them the truth don’t lie. Tell them that an attitude like that is ruining your Christmas, and you want no part in it. It might sound mean, but they’ll either shape up, or get mad. If they get mad, then some family they are. Sorry, not trying to be mean, but like I said just because theyre family doesnt mean you have to wipe their butts with 100 dollar bills, and throw yourself over a puddle of mud so they can walk safely across it.

thanks but I dont think that will work. they wont admit to having done anything against us. and their financial situation is fine, they actually have more money than us lol.

It may not help this year, but it could be great for xmas’ to come. You could try addressing the issue calmly and reasonably as a family, and resolving this uncomfortable situation. It sounds like perhaps they feel inadequate due to your financial liberty. People have poor, cheap, horribly gifted Christmases because they’re poor. Consider how they feel, in comparison to your family spending ‘’heaps of money’’

Otherwise there’s not much you can to. It’s tough to hide or compensate for emotion, especially in groups.

Well, in that case I wonder why you would bother. Sure, family is important, but I don’t think you should have to force a good time.

If they have more money than you, and cheap it up when you’re there, and then expect you to spend the heaps of money when they visit you…I think that’s proximal to taking advantage of you. Consider deeply the emotional value of your internal family’s holidays, and if the extended family doesn’t fit into that picture then just send them a fruitcake and a family picture!