How to let go of him

Unfortunately situations like these do present themselves. The harsh reality is that you are not his caregiver and because you don’t feel the same way as him you are in no way obliged to stay with him. It is not uncommon for people to get so devoted to their love and get so attached to someone that they find it difficult to see beyond their relationship. I think it is time for you to do some deep thinking…

Think about your relationship and what this guy really means to you. Sometimes people go through stages where they feel lost in their relationship and without communication this issue typically leads to separation. Think about your relationship and your partner and what aspects of these entities may be preventing you from loving this person. Think deeply as to whether the care you have for him is romantic or sympathetic (a serious question to ask yourself). If you are staying with him because you feel sorry/ scared for him then this is a relationship that can only cause this person pain and it would be best for both of you if it was to end. You cannot stay with someone if the emotions are gone.

One thing to remember is that you are lucky enough to have someone there for you who loves you and would quite obviously do anything to be with you. Not everybody in this world has that and sometimes we make the mistake of getting too used to things in a relationship (expectations) and we can often see flaws in partners/ relationships. Think about this person and how he treats you when you are making your decision as to what to do.

If you do decide that this relationship has had its time and that it needs to end you do have to be a bit careful. Have a deep talk with your partner. It is likely that he will get emotional and perhaps even cry. Talk to him and comfort him as you do so. Just because you’re breaking up with him doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give him a hug/ cuddle or even a little kiss every now and then. In other words, remember that you’re his girlfriend until the end of the discussion and so being there for him and close to him while you explain this to him would be a great way to help him cope.

Remember that the two of you can always be close friends and you are always willing to talk to him and interact with him. The end of a relationship could be the beginning of an amazing friendship. Although it is somewhat unlikely that he would end his own life as a result of this, have a serious talk with him in relation to this. You obviously care about him so don’t let him do anything stupid because he will cause you and many other people around him a lot of grief, not to mention that the end of a relationship is not the end of the world.

I hope you come to the right decision and that all goes well :)…