How to go in for it?

I have a girlfriend and both of us are really shy. I want to make the first move but dont know how. how do I go in for a hug or even a kiss? Thank you.

Answer #1

Just get really close to her first, if you are watching a movie or something. It’ a lot less nerve racking and more likeable to her if you kiss her ear/neck/cheek first and slowly before kissing her lips. She’ll be psyched that you had the confidence to do it. It doesn’t matter if you screw it up. I completely screwed over my first kiss with Ell by trying to french first(I was very afraid because she looked angry and wouldn’t let me out of the car because she knew I was avoiding it), and she didn’t even wait half a second to correct me. She did it nicely though, it’s probably one of the only times Ell ever said anything in a tone that comforting. “Not so fast Brian, just calm down.” It doesn’t sound like anything special but she smiled and looked into my eyes when she said it. So if my viper of a girlfriend was ok with me majorly screwing up our first kiss I think you are all right with your shy girl. Remember that it is her first kiss too so she’s probably going to be relieved if you mess up, it takes the attention off of her. I thought that if I messed up kissing her and I wasn’t amazing things would be awkward in the least. They weren’t though. Girls have a way of making everything proceed as usual. When I told her why I had been afraid to kiss her like a week later she hysterically laughed at me and made me feel like a dumba$$. Sorry I ramble so much. Just think about how much you like her and you’ll be good.

Answer #2

Well, watching a scary or suspenssfull, or even a romatic movie can help. For scary movies, my girlfriend will sometimes hide in my shirt lol. with suspesfull movies, she might grab hold of u, or you cold pull the sensitive card and watch a romantic movie and when the right moment comes go in for the kill…I mean kiss…w/e. Or make it random, my first kiss with my girlfriend was when we were having a silly arguement, about whether or not she should wear a watch, and the whole throwing back the yes and no, and inching closer as I replied, and making my voice softer and we kissed. It was the best moment of my life(so far).

I know your shy, but if you mess up, you might end up looking “cute” to her, and she will kiss u. Its happened with me AND my friend before(not at the same time obviously). Just don’t freak out or go for the frencher, just stick with lips, and relax.

Good luck!

Zach

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