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how to finger my she and a lil scared girlfriend

ok well I want to finger my girlfriend and I think she wants me to aswell but a few mounths ago she went threw sum pretty tramatic stuff with her boyfriend at the time and now she is scared to go any further than making out I dont have a problem with that, but I know we both want to go further but she is scared and realy nervouse and shy and I want to show her that she can trust me and not be as shy and scared and yer

so how would I do that ??? please I realy need help

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Answer #1

I was molested when I was younger so it took me quite a while to come around with this kind of thing too. Just give her time. Talk to her and tell you would like to try some stuff and you will take everything slow and to tell you if she wants you to stop and that you will stop immediately. You are going to have to go very slow. It will take her a while to be able to trust a guy fully again. If the talking doesn’t work, give her a few weeks to get a little more comfortable around you and try just putting your hand on her thigh, if she doesn’t move it just do that for a few days. Then try moving it up further and leave it there. I mean really slow. Don’t make her feel pressured or she is going to freak and leave. So just go off of her reactions…

Answer #2

Dont rush into anything. Just kiss for now. If she looks like she’s more comfortable put your hand on her inner thigh and (while kissing so not awkward) see how she reacts. If she seems ok just slowly, gently touch her from outside of her pants. surprisingly, it actually feels pretty good. do that for awhile then put your hand back on her thigh and leave it at that. It will keep her wanting more and then the ball is in her court so you don’t feel obligated.

Answer #3

um yer thanks for both ansers but I cant talk to her about it :( cause im not supposed to no she didnt tell me, her best friend told me cause she thought I needed to know and yer if my girlfriend found out that her friend told me then they wouldnt be friends and I couldnt do that to them they have been friends since grade 3 her friend is one of the only 2 people (not including me ) that know about what happend

Answer #4

Yeah dont rush her into it just be nice with her show her your trust and the only way you can do that is by time the time will come be patient and stuff,and also if your getting in the mood put your hands around her waist kiss her body slowly kiss her a lot and slowly massage her thighs very slow and softly and stuff like that

Answer #5

well I think the best way to show a girl that your not just using her is to talk to her about tell her that you have no problem with making out but you love her and want to take your relationship to the next step.. make her feel comfotable around and it should help her with feeling shy

Answer #6

um well she wouldnt have sex with him and he choked her and slaped her bit her thigh and sum other crap I realy dont like to think about it last time I broke a nucckle punching the wall :S but yer I know she still hasnt recoverd fully yet …(it happen in feburary)

Answer #7

mmm thanks il try it next time I see her

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