How to draw people to me?

I am a lonesome girl and I need to find some really great friends. I am very anti-social and am not good at meeting people. One of my greatest goals is to draw people to me in a good way and get a little somewhere around popular. You know, everyone who has close friends whom are popular to eachother in a good way. I am not popular to anyone but I want to be. It would be so neat to have close friends that I can relate to and things. How should I be to attract the people I like. I like many people, but they don’t know I exist. I feel like a failure to find and keep people close to me.

Any steps?

Please be thoughtful and helpful not Rudeful (haha)

Answer #1

maybe you can try taking it a step at a time like instead of going up to a whole group at one time maybe you should try a person at a time and slowly develop friendships from there

Answer #2

Confidence and a smile, and don’t be afraid to introduce yourself as well to people, just always go with the first instinct and don’t overdue the confidence thing.

Answer #3

Thank you for all your advice, I feel so much better, Really!

And to be a friend, I need proof you’re not some creepy old person. A photo, myspace? I DON’T date or mess around. I want true great friends that take care of themselves and would take care of me and not be thoughtless about it.

Thank you.

Answer #4

think about this…you’re antisocial. try going up to somebody during your lunch break and introduce yourself to some people. Just try to be yourself. I hope that you will be able to get some friends, because it is hard for us antisocials to get friends. sit with somebody at lunch.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Cheerful0292

Answer #5

I feel a lot like you do. Im living in a town that I know maybe 2 people besides my boyfriend who is often out of town for school. I feel so lonely all the time. All the friends I do have live in other cities. So, your not the only one.

Answer #6

yea just be yourself. you don’t have to be someone your not for other people. you should just be more alive at school by saying hi to people when you walk past them.or if your not to scared then just walk up to someone and say hi whats up or join more after school activities to meet people who have the same interests as u. you have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. or if you feel really bad about it then go to a counselor and talk to someone about it. or during lunch ask someone that you dont know if you can sit with them and make sure its not girls that are too popular bacause they are always mean.or if you see someone wearing a shirt that you like then go up to them and tell them and that might start a conversation. thats all I can think of right now. hope I helped

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