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How To Be Girly And Outgoing??

Okay so, I’m considered pretty, but I never wear clothes that let me show off my body to my full potential, I’m brunnette, have mid-back hair thats wavy, 14, and I’m not overweight, but I’m considered “curvy.” Im sick of wearing black all the time, but I don’t know how to move out of the phase. I don’t have a lot of clothes to choose from (that aren’t black) and I don’t have money to spend. I’m too shy, and I’m really outgoing with friends, but with people I don’t know I clam up and whisper. I can’t stop it, it justs happens. I also have had no luck in the boy department, I see guys look at me, but the only guys that ever actually try to talk to me are losers, not the nerd losers, I mean concieted, non-hygenic, failing grade, drug user losers. I can never seem to attract the “good” guys. I guess I’m saying that I just need advice on how to be better at being more girly, less shy, and more fun. I want to fit in at highschool, have friends, and have fun. But it’s hard when I can barely even talk without whispering.

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Answer #1

You can voice out your outer beauty not just with clothes but with smiles and being friendly. Shyness can in fact be a positive thing for a girl, you see guys have a view for girls as having innocence so being shy just adds to this.

If you want the good guys to notice you, get their attention. A simplistic wave in their direction will float in their head for days (happened to me before I was in a state of shock).

Letting people see who you really are will in fact outrule the need for being girly or fun. In the end you want the guy to fall for who you are.

Being comfortable in High school can be a difficult task but just manage with it, try your best to be friendly with the people that talk to you. Even if they seem like complete jerks or what nots. In the end people get a good feel about you, and don’t think your a judgmental person.

As for the issue about only being able to whisper, you can just tell the guy/girl that your not used to meeting new people and that you have to get comfortable with them. This can actually pose a challenge for a guy if he likes you and wants to date you, he will most likely try to get you to feel comfortable around you in a matter of minutes lol.

Answer #2

Clothes dont matter the only dudes that sexy clothes with attract are the ones that are sex obsessed and just want your for your body. Just do basic skinny jeans and a tee shirt :) As for the shyness, I know how you feel. Maybe if you had your friends with you when you talked to boys then you might feel more comfortable then once you have gained confidence then you could try talking to him on your own. you never knwo he might have the same problem. As with new friends, relax you dont have to go searching all the time. New friends will come to u :)

Answer #3

a couple years ago I used to be like that..not the black clothes but kinda shy,and only got crazy with frnz, I wanted to be more outgoing like you do,and I pushed myself to go up to people and talk..and now im a lot more outgoing!…and try to find a frnd that has a lot of guy frnz and when she hangs with them go on over there with her..and talk..and im ALWAYS asking my frnz if they have any clothes that they dont want to give them to me lol so dats a way to get clothes..unless you dont like used clothes:)I hope that was a little help:)

Answer #4

Anytime :D

Answer #5

thanks, it just seems so impossible to me.. Comprehending that I actually can be fine the way I am.. Just self-esteem. But I really appreciate your advice :D thank again!