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How, Shoud I trust him again?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5months now & about a mnth ago he promised to stop getting high and chilling with some guy I dont like. I recently found out that hes been lying to me about both those things the entire time and I broke up with him. We recently got back together and I’ve kinda loosend up about him getting high, but no so much hanging out with that guy.. He said hed stop talking and hanging out with him BUT I don’t know how to believe hes actually stopped. Should I believe him? Should I even be back with him? or am I wrong for making him stop?

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Answer #1

All I’m going to say is trust is probably the number one most important thing to have in a relationship, in ANY relationship, whether it be a lover, a friend or family member. It can be broken literally in seconds and take years to get back.

As for your boy, for him to know that he lost you once over all the stuff he did behind your back, and to still be using after you took him back, to me, shows lack of respect for you. I don’t know your entire situation, however having had a similar experience with a guy like this, my trust was broken repeatedly. There was a lot of time wasted on wondering and worrying about what he was doing behind my back. I say wasted because it all turned out to be true in the end and if I would’ve just listened to my gut feeling from the start, I could’ve saved myself a lot of head and heartaches. I guess what I’m trying to say is just make sure you don’t end up wasting all your time on the wondering and worrying, when you could be out living and enjoying yourself. You deserve better.

Answer #2

At the end of the day you just need to think about how you feel about a situation. But althouugh you dont like his friend by saying to him he cant see him wwill make him want to even more its like if you tell a kid they cant have ice-cream even if they dont want it all ov a sudden they want it. But personly id have to sit him down and tell him why you dont like him getting high, but its unlikely he will never give up unless he wants to its just one ov those things that people who get high do, trust me I know quite a lot about people like that so if you want any more advice bout it ask me if you want :D hope I helped

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