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How do I tell my mom to keep it to herself?

Well to make a long story short, my older sister has mental issues, and at times could be very difficult to live with. I understand that this is stressful for my family, especially my mom. I understand that she is frustrated, but what annoys me is that she tells her friends what goes on at home. What goes on is really personal, and I feel like it is none of their business. How do I tell my mom to stop telling them?

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Answer #1

You can probably just come out and tell her that her discussing this outside the family bothers you, but you need to realize that she can and will discuss it with whoever she feels like. She will have her own support circles among her friends, and talking with them could be very important to her. Sometimes making personal things just a little more public can be a real help with dealing with them. Often, others have had similar experiences, or can offer suggestions that maybe fresh. Let your Mom know your feelings, but be willing to accept that she may not act on them. Good luck!

Answer #2

You say exactly that…

I understand that you are frustrated, but I feel that what goes on is really personal, and I feel like it is none of their business.

It may work, it may not. She needs to cope as well and this is probably how she’s doing it. If they are then telling other people, perhaps you need to point that out. Or ask her if she cant just confide in one person she knows will keep it confidential. Remember, use I statements, (I feel is a good one)

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