how do I tell my boyfriend that I want to keep the baby if I am pre

How do I tell my boyfriend of 3 months that if I am prego I don’t think I could go through with an abortion? How do I tell him that I really do love him but I think it would emitonaly hurt me to bad if I was to get the abortion? How Do I tell my boyfriend that we can make it through having a baby? What do I do I am only 18 he is 19 and we live at his grandmas together.. They took me into there home when I got kicked out of my mothers.. I can that it would be stress on his grandma but I really want to have this kid if I am prego.. and he has already had all his fun in his life he already said that so I don’t get why he wouldn’t want to keep the kid.

Answer #1

I think your boyfriend is probably taking a lot of things into consideration when deciding if you should keep the child or not. A baby can be very time consuming, monetary consuming, and adds to a stressful environment if you guys can’t bear with the child. Either way, this is your body, your choice. Instead of not accepting what your choice is, he should be the first to support you. It’s coming to a compromise, not for the two of you but for the child. 3 months, I don’t think any place would allow an abortion to be done anyway. The next best thing that he is thinking of is putting the child up for adoption. Which is not what you want to do, I’m sure of that.

The easiest way to tell him is that you’re doing this for the child. When it comes to being a parent, you can’t be a parent by simply wanting a child. It no longer turns into what you want but what the child wants and needs. You should emphasize to him how much it means to you to have a child and how much it would hurt you if he didn’t approve of this. You should set up the occasion where you both are free to chat for a good amount of time. Don’t make this spontanious, organize this so that way you don’t get interrupted. Keep in mind that you still need to listen to what he has to say.

Make sure that you give as much as you can to keep the child healthy and well fit. This means sacrificing almost everything you have for the child. I hope all goes well.

Good luck…

Answer #2
  • Well You Should Just Be Straight Up With Him & Ask Him How Far Would You Go With Me And If He Loves You So Much For Ya To Keep The Baby;Im Sure If He Says Ya Should Keep It He Truly Loves You;
Answer #3

It can be overwhelming for some people to find out that they (or their girlfriend) are pregnant. You need to be strong and confident. If YOU want this baby, then (sorry if I sound harsh) it doesn’t matter what he wants. Don’t get an abortion because he told you to (if he does).

You should wait until you both are relaxed and not stressed about anything. A Sunday evening maybe. And sit him down saying you have something important to tell him. He will look worried and might guess pregnancy in his head first, so don’t leave too much of a time gap between telling him you have something important to tell him, and telling him you are pregnant. Touching him, like your hand on his knee when telling him will be nicer than just sitting there. You should sit close to him, but not too close. Just not on the other side of the room. But not right next to him.

Best of luck, and good for you for keeping the baby. xx

Answer #4

just dont tell him until its too late to get an abortion, then that will take that out of the pic.. you can hide it till then

Answer #5

Dont get an obortion. Talk to him and tell him its his baby and has to keep the baby, if he really loves you he’ll understand.

Answer #6

Just say you want to be a Mother, bear the Child, if you are Christian, Catholic institutions will support you and help you to get social support, or a job, never mind if he wants it or not.

Answer #7

katye,

Yep, I totally read that wrong. I think you can still stick to my suggestion and the suggestions of others to see how you can get your boyfriend to understand.

Good luck and stay strong!

Answer #8

tell him I want to keep my baby and if you have a problem with that you obviously don’t respect my decisions. try not to sound too rude but firm

Answer #9

I was misunderstood when I said boyfriend of 3 months at the start what I was saying was we have only been together for 3 months and I think I am prego and I don’t know how to tell him I want to keep it.

Answer #10

it is up to you but tell him how you are feeling. don’t get an abortion it is bad for you. tell him ifhe didn’t want a babt then he should of used a condom. but tell him that it is your decision and you want to have the baby and if he loves you then he will agree to have the baby too. but remember that you can have the baby and be on your own with out him. all you have to do is be strong and independant. think about your baby. good luck I hope everything works out for you guys.

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