How do I stop fighting with my girlfriend?

I have a girlfriend and we have been together for 7 months now. We are always fighting. The littlest things will turn into huge fights and arguments. Everything. Everything. I can’t figure out why.

I love her to pieces. I think she is the most beautiful girl in the world. I love everything about her. I would do anything for her and feel like I always want to love her. Everyone in my whole community tells me and praises me for having such a genuine and real/great relationship with her. This goes to show you that when we aren’t fighting, we are like the perfect couple.

I have realized a million times that this needs to stop. I have tried many things. I try my hardest to just “let it go” or “forget about it” when an argument is about to happen. However, that is very difficult for me as I am an avid debater. I sometimes apologize to her even when it’s not my fault and shes mad, but that doesn’t work.

I don’t know what to do really. I love Rachael with all of my heart. It really is a really genuine amazing relationship. We are both healthy and great together.

I just really don’t want to see anything end. :’( That would depress me forever because I know that she is my girl. She’s the one.

Thanks. -Ryan

Answer #1

Have you tried talking about it, and stopping when someone gets mad, starting over. If you can’t communicate, you’re wasting your time together. There’s a book called 10 stupid things couples do to ruin their lives. You might check it out at the library.

Answer #2

4 Easy Steps to resolving arguments (any kind)

Step 1: Take a moment to cool off for 5-10 mins and let her know you will call her back or be right back and within what time frame.

Step 2: When you get back, ask her what’s on her mind and let her talk without interrupting. If you let her feel like you’re understanding her side of the story, she’ll open up to you (defenses go down).

Step 3: Apologize for the misunderstanding or whatever. This will soothe the conflict.

Step 4: Tell her what you’ll do to make it better.

WORKS EVERY TIME!!!

Answer #3

Talk about it, really it helps. the first year of my relationship was golden, then she it hit year and a half, and 2 years, and we started getting mad more, and more, and little stuff, but we sat down and talk, and talk about it, and we back to normal now. Talking will help you figure what why u are always getting mad, and fighting with your girl, then yall to work it out, and go on from there. To be honest if me and my girl of 2 plus years didn’t talk as much as much as we did about everything we would of been broken up by now, but since we talk things are great now, and have no complaints, and we love each other more because of all that happened,

hope I help a little, and good luck

Answer #4

I’ve been there a few times. Communicating, is very important in a relationship. However, when two people in a still young relationship are fighting as much as you are, it’s often a sign of a relationship is failing. But don’t give up yet, really talking about the problems is really important. Try first, and find out whats going on in the relationship. If it’s not working out then remember to end it amicably. It’s better to be friends with your ex, then having them hate you. It’s a great personality builder, and helps you with the next relationship. I do wish you luck though and hope it does work out.

Answer #5

give her some sex. Makes everything better.

Answer #6

Joost talk to her it helps. It will let you know why she is mad.

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