How do I handle my ex dating my best friend?

All you talk about is how much you love him, like him, still have feelings for him, how you spent so much time crying over him, and regretting some of the decisions you made. From the looks of it, the feelings are only one-sided. Remember those old catch phrases: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, “Everything happens for a reason”, “There are other fish in the sea” and likewise. When you go through a break up or some other emotionally challenging time in your life, you’re actually getting closer to finding true happiness because you are getting to know your true inner self.

Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no instant messaging and most importantly, no sex- not necessarily as a permanent measure (except where sex is concerned), but until you feel that you can converse with him like a normal person, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive).

Accept your pain. It’s okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. But you have to know that you are a good person.

No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean it wasn’t a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you’re meant to be.

Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and having hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was very unique and special in a lot of ways, all good things must come to an end. And when they do, that’s when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it’s best that you aren’t together.

Do not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Don’t try to talk to him or her about the break up. Don’t make yourself think negatively about yourself or your judgment, or anything else that will make you doubt your decisions or yourself.

Let Karma take care of everything on its own.