how do i get this man back

Look first off, it all depends on a number of factors

1. The situation that you saw him in: for example did u see him with another woman, and you just still happen to be single at that time, and you felt a tingle of jealousy and now that ur single and he’s not, u want him back???….its natural to think that way

2. Did you just need some space at that time(time you told him you don’t love him) if thats the case than you just made a tiny mistake of telling him you don’t love him, nothing big, a MAN will understand that you needed space and were under some stress that you had to figure it out on your own….

3. Now that you have been single, you look for the same qualities in men that remind you of your ex. if thats the case well sweetheart welcome to a place called Heartsville……..because now not only ur emotions are involved but deep down you really yearn to be with this man.

4. It is natural to question your judgement, but what I will suggest is that you sit down and weigh the guy’s pros and cons, for example he loved you as much as you love urself atleast, pro…. check he wasn’t ambitious at all and was mooching off of you, Con…..check he was there when you needed him, pro……check he was there as long as you guys had sex, then it was the TV and a Sandwich, Con…..check

I would wait it out, be patient…….another way to find out if there is anything is to be friends with him again, and make it clear starting out that you guys are good friends now and that this doesn’t mean that you are getting back together, see how he reacts……if he is apathetic to the gesture, try once more and after that if he’s still apathetic and just doesn’t care, Sweetheart you got ur answer, but if he’s willing to be friends and that if thats the only way he can hangout with you, he’ll take it, thats good……..and then you just c how things go, and if he still gives your indicators that he’s still waiting for YOU, and depending on whether the reason you fell out of love was Naivity you can then decide……but i’ll tell you this…….relationships are a compromise, day in day out……

you already went out with him 2 years or so…….its natural for you to be attracted to him again……..cuz dang, u spent an ice age together, hehe, sorry……ok well the reason you might have felt out of love for him was maybe lack of spice in your relationship, you’ve got to keep things new somehow, turn a weekend trip to the bar into weekend road trip to a cabin in the woods, going to family to often into a trip to the bahamas(some cheap flights out there, u just gotta look)………keep it new, thats y so many marriages become stagnant and adultery takes over……..keep it hip, keep it cool………do ur thang girl, and watch the men drool :)

hope this helps