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How do I get over someone?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months. But recently he dumped me because I have too many insecurities that he possibly couldn’t cope with. The thing is, before we broke up he was hinting that we were on the verge of breaking up because of various different reasons. So I reckon he was using this ‘insecurity’ thing as an excuse to leave me. Anyway… I’m really upset. I can’t eat properly, I have broken sleep because my dreams always involve him in some way, and I can’t think properly without missing him like mad. He texted me today saying he still loves me. But that was it. He didn’t say he wanted to be with me again or anything. So I’m REALLY confused now. I don’t know how to get over him. I know it takes time but the pain is too horrible to bare. I just want him back. I can’t cope without him. :(

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Answer #1

Dear lullaby148, I can’t cope without him…this type of attitude is what drove him away in the first place. You need to learn how to be more independent. Boys really don’t like to be always responsible for their girlfriends. They want someone who can make decisions, who is Strong and doesn’t need to be always taken care of. Sure he may still love you…he was texting you to find out if you are working on your problems…he probably wants to know that you see what your problems are and you are really, really working on them. How do you work on them: try counselling, affirmations, journaling etc. Sitting back and being very dramatic isn’t getting things done. Nothing is too horrible to bare…start by taking out the drama in you words, this really helps. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

Lulliby148

It is natural for you to feel that way. You must have really loved him. I have been there before and it is not a fun place to be. My advice to you is occupy your time. Read a few good books, go out with friends, make good use of your time. When he sees that you can get along without him he will want you back, at this point the ball will be in your court. Keep your chin up. Time heals all wounds.

Answer #3

Sounds to me you need time alone to take a look at yourself, go through the pain but the fight is in you, not with him.

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