How do I get over rape?

hey concerning your question on rape, I have a rather contoversial but in my perception effective approach. It’s not going to be easy but I’ve found it helpful in my own personal healing journey as I’ve had similar experiences.

I don’t know if you’re religious or not,but I am a christian and I go to church. I find praying and forgiving the person helpful. I KNOW it’s insane to even think about forgiveness right now but TAKE YOUR TIME and know that to be a very healing option. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you let the guy off the hook or say that his actions were right, but that what he did to you has hurt you but it won’t keep you from moving forward, that you’re letting that go.

Know that you are deeply loved.

I’ve also found that people who’ve gone through things like that ends up getting turned on the way they were experienced, so they’d end up hating themselves for ‘liking’ what they experienced. Given the time, if you learn how to open your heart to the right person you can learn to adapt to proper intimacy. I recommend a book called “The Wounded Heart” by Dan B Allender PhD.

I am very sorry for your experience and may God grant you the grace that you need. I’ve found that through my healing journey, I’ve become stronger and I’ve experienced God more and in so, being able to encourage others more. May He grant you love and victory in the place of fear and hatred. May tou be an overcomer and not just a survivor.

Blessings.

I’m so sorry this unfortunate event happened to you. There are two guys at my school who raped another guy and they both got expelled. One went to jail. I suggest getting close to your family and really having some time to relax and hang out with friends. Even though nobody can console you out of that thought, I really hope you can get through this. I imagine time does help a little and I’m happy that your taking the action to see a therapist. I can’t believe even having contact with people who’ve done such a repulsive thing! However, we cannot switch back time and time can be cruel.

Rape isnt something that is going to completely leave your mind. Straight up I’ve been raped and this was to years ago And not only that but the guy that did rape me was mexican and gave me 10 dollars and told me in spanish to go buy a soda!!! I’ve been to counsling and everythivng. And it is very hard to trust anyone after this just nothing you will do can get you to stop thinking bout it and after getting raped your sex life is hard! Or just having sex period.

Four months is not long. I know it may be excruciating and so unfair how the perpetrator still have this power over you. Have you considered maybe a support group in your town for people that are going thru the same pain? Perhaps assisting and teaching other girls about your experience could channel this pain in a different direction and give your life meaning. It may get better eventually but you will still think about it a lot. Have you considered taking or are you taking any anti anxiety meds? It may help deaden some of the intensity so you can get sleep and stuff.

Its a very courageous thing to speak up and tell your story. First thing is first though, I really hope you’re alright physically. Rape is a horrible thing to have happen and it is never your fault. Some ways to help you get over being raped is to confide in close friends and family about the way you’re feeling. You’re going to a counselor, and thats great. I commend you for that. Without knowing if this was a stranger rape or acquaintance rape I really can’t give precise details for you, but, i’ll try. A lot of rape survivors need to feel safe again. Changing locks on doors, or carrying personal protection items may help. Items such as pepper spray (if it’s legal where you are) or even lemon juice (works like pepper spray when squirted in the eyes). I know you’re feeling like you can’t trust anyone, but, you can trust yourself. Follow your gut instincts, they’re rarely wrong. Try to stay close to your loved ones and not shut them out, they may not understand what you’re going through, but, they love you and can’t help you unless you tell them what they need to do. Don’t become a shut-in. You need to take control back. Control is what you lost when you were raped, and you need to get it back. And just knowing that it will get better sometimes helps. I’ve even been told by rape survivors that if they close their eyes and see the attacker, sometimes it helps to imagine what you could’ve done different to stop the attack, for instance: if he attacked you in a dark corner of a garage, imagine you had a flashlight, and hit him in the head with it so you could run away. Then implement the idea. Carry a flashlight with you when you enter the garage. Hope this helps.