How Do I Get Him Back?

I’m not sure how to help you but I do understand what you are going through. I dated my ex for roughly the same amount of time…We too took a break to date other people…He now has a girlfriend that he says he’s happy with one minute, and miserable with the next. It has been about 1 1/2 years since we broke up. We still keep in contact, and have even hooked up a couple of times. I have been working at changing my life to be more of the woman that I want me to be, and that I know he wanted me to be. More organized, energetic, and happy. But it keeps looking like we take one step forward and two steps back. This is especially hard because we’ve been friends for 10 1/2 years since we were 14. I know that sometimes you feel guilty for trying to get him back..but don’t feel that way I honestly believe that there is a reason why we are still hanging on. You love him, and since he spent that much time with you there is a part of him that loved you very much. I hate the feeling that my future depends on whether or not the new girl screws up or not. I’m sure that you have felt that way before. I know that one good piece of advice is when you talk to him don’t let your emotions get the best of you. It is much easier said then done, but everytime I break down with those I was an idiot, I didn’t know what I had lines that he closes off and shuts down. But if we are having a good conversation, I can slip in a few things now and then. I wish you the best of luck in your quest, and if you would be interested I would like to chat with you sometime to compare notes and come up with successful strategies for both of our cases.