How can I get my guy back?

This is my problem, me and this guy have known each other for a long time, we flirt, and we wanted each other but we were to young, now I’m 21 and he is 28 and we went out had some fun drank a little bit and he finally kissed me and confessed he has been wanted me for years since i was like fourteen probably even smaller and well I didn’t tell him but he is gorgeous and ive wanted him for a long time too. the funny thing is theres always been this “LUST” between us that is just unbelievable and we just cant say no. So finally one day we slept together i lost my virginity to him and he called me like 7 times the next day and we saw each other that night too we had sex and it was great, i dont know if its the way he does it to me or the lust we feel for each other, anyways we went on and on like that for like three weeks and then didnt see each other for a like a week and then the last time i saw him we had sex four times in one day anal, oral , everything he wanted i gave him and he told me he wanted to be the only one who i had sex with, that he would go crazy to know someone else touched me like he did and now i feel i want him even more everyday but now i see him less and less if i call him hell sound like annoyed or bugged by my phone calls i feel hes losing interest or just calls me when he wants to get off, i want him like that too but i also feel i love him, i want him to be my boyfriend but I’m afraid he doesn’t think like that, and ill go mad if i see him with another girl, i cant stand if he even looks at another girl, what can i do to get him back and make him love me like i do???? should i go out with someone else and make him jealous?? or try to let him go??its been 3 weeks since weve been together, and im going crazy i want him and nobody else. is it just because he was my first one??

Answer #1

Dear michelle2007, It’s amazing how you have given him your body but could not sit down and talk about your relationship. Exclusive dating comes with a verbal contract…if it doesn’t then you are friends with benefits. Just being friends comes with less responsibility than a committed relationship. Women and men are hardwired differently and women (typically) get much more emotionally involved then men when there isn’t a defined relationship.
Never try to make another jealous; this puts you in the nasty category and nasty people are usually unhappy their whole lives. Choose to take the mature route and when he calls set up a dinner out somewhere very quiet and discuss where your relationship is going. Be prepared for it to go either way since the guidelines were not defined in the beginning. You may have to chalk this one up to a learning experience. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

being clingy will run a guy off in no time flat.

your emotions are out of control and you need to slow down and think things out.

let him call you (he will) and when he does, simply explain that you’re busy. You’ll find that he’ll call again soon. That time, feel free to do what you wnt with him, but be sure that you make time to have a short conversation.

ask him how he feels about you and what kind of relationship you two have, if he is unsure, then you know that he is interested in sex only.

first times are often rough like this.

don’t worry, it gets slightly easier.

just try to remember to take things slowly.

know what’s going on. never let it spin out of control…

Answer #3

He is using you as a booty call!!! and he has restricted you to being only with him also, he prob has 3 other girls like you that he goes to for booty calls, do you really think he hasnt had sex in 3 weeks since being with you? he is keeping you hanging on by sweet talking you and leading you on so you stay faithful to him and he isnt even your bf while he runs around and does what he wants. Stop letting him use you, you are not his doormat! tell him if he doesnt want to commit to you then he cant sleep with you whenever he feels like it and stopped letting him, maybe try moving on for a while and it may knock some sense into him.

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