how do I get her back into my life?

I know how you feel, I’ve been through that. but you know what, it’s you it’s worse not knowing what would happen if you were to have tried. Just call her and tell her to hear you out, ask her for just five minutes of her time. You don’t have to go off with all these mooshy feelings I know that’s really hard for men sometimes, but just tell her that you didn’t mean to offend her by the things you said. Tell her you were just mad at the time and we sometimes say things to hurt the other person when we’re mad but it doesn’t mean we really mean it. Just tell her how much you love her and you can’t live without her. After that, I hope she decides to forgive you, then whatever the fight was about you guys need to talk about it, resolve it, and then leave it in the past. The reason I’m saying this is because if it doesn’t get resolved it will be brought up again in the future and will just create another unnecessary fight. I wish you all the luck, just if she decide not to fight for your love then maybe she doesn’t love you as much as you love her. And maybe she just isn’t the one for you even if at the time you think there can’t be anyone else.

Write her a letter. Say that you are sorry but also EXPLAIN why you are sorry so it sounds genuine. Write about how you wish the conversation had gone, and maybe suggest some kind of compromise to whatever the issue was. Recognize her side (she just wants to feel validated, so validate her feelings). Don’t give her the letter right away– instead, sleep on it a day or two. Then re-read the letter and see if it sounds right.

When you sit down and talk to her, try not to interrupt each other. Make sure she KNOWS you understand her side. Having one person feel like they aren’t being understood can actually cause the fighting to happen or worsen it. REPEAT BACK TO HER what she said (example: “So, you’re feeling upset because of xyz, and when I did xyz, it made you xyz, right?”) Then she will feel like you’re really getting how she feels and she will feel less inclined to be defensive.

Good luck.

look if you really love her then don’t think abt the fight you had. that is past, gone. just think abt the life which is onward. if you are xtremly in luv wid her, go on, say sorry and let her to do so. if it was your mistake or hers, no matter who says sorry because its luv. just go to her and try if you really really luv her. if she was wid you in every problem, now its your turn