how do I get close??

I had this problem too, I am 16 now & things are MUCH better She feels left out, she feels 2nd best, along with her family. You need to let her know that you love her & trust her, & that her hapiness means the world to you. She’s a mother, but at the end of the day, she is a woman, & she feels insecure as well.

You can start with helping her & pampering her & ofcourse she’s going to wonder why you are so helpful all of a sudden just answer back with something really sweet & simple like ‘I don’t want you to over work’ or ‘you deserve a break too’ Little things matter too, like making her a cup of coffee or buying a little something for no reason & just pop a sentence like ‘I saw this wallet & I totally thought it suits you’ maybe a pair of earrings she can show off to her friends. Mother’s day is coming up, make her something nice, put some effort in it, they like it better than expensive stuff. Try being nicer to her relatives, call them every now & then, she’ll feel appreciated =]

Be patient dear, it works out at the end of the day, but you need to give it time. Don’t you give up, be stubborn & determined, or else it’ll get worse if you just give up

I think that’s what you should do - let her know - don’t assume she knows your true feelings - write her a note and say what you did here, from the heart…I wish you every happiness !!

oh & one more thing, as soon as things get better, make sure she knows you trust her, by asking her advice on something personal, like boys for instance, & avoid treating her like a mother, try being her friend, I bet she’s really lonely if she has no relatives around.

Good luck!

Okay Okay BIG misunderstanding =S I gave you advise thinking you were a teenage girl, I am so sorry!! xD I just visited your profile & found out you’re a guy!! Terribly sorry =S :$:$

Well, you don’t have to be TOO CLOSE to your mom in that case, just show you her love her, & respect her =] Be a gentleman, mothers like that, be sweet to her, ask her if she needs anything before you leave the house, appreciate tha fact that she cooks you food & does your laundry =] I think that does the trick! {^-^} Good luck! =D

Well then there you go! Although, do you think she’d like the idea of you trying to change her appearance? and when I said talk about boys, how about asking her for advice? & it doesn’t have to be about boys, any gesture would be fine as long she knows you trust her. Besides, there is no such theing as she doesn’t like to be pampered,my mom used to say that, then I found out she just likes doing her own work, because its done HER way. lol