How do I forgive my mother for forcing me to get an abortion?

Wow…Thats really sad. I want to cry for you! :C Well abortion is really uhh something bad…maybe go to a doctor that helps you with your problem (forgot the name of that type of doc). Usually it helps. This is waaay to big of a deal to be handled here!

personally I dont no if I would be able to forgive my mom for something like abortion. all her old issues such as addictions and having me babysit could be forgiving but abortion is seriously against everything. Its like you will never have the chance to be in your child’s life or name it and even if you had another one it would never be the same. I think you should let your mother know you forgive her but set your boundaries with her and let her know it cannot be the same but your willing to have some kind of relationship. Also im in a similar situation and I cry and go through emotional pain as well with my boyfriend so you have helped me as well. I will keep you in my prayers. Hope we both get through it!.

you all have some really good points thank you so much

thats fuuuckkkedd uppp!! you should be able to make your own decitions!!

wow thats really sad! im sorry your going through all of that! but let it remain in the history because if you dont those emotions those feelings and the stress will murder You. Now whats done is done you cant do anything to change it. but you can Choose to forgive your mother, and if you make the decision to the forgiveness process, is those feelings come up again you should remember that there is nothing you could do and that you chose to forgive her! You will genuinely forgive her is when you you will be able to call her mom again and when her successes with make you happy! I as a christian would recommend you to try going to a church to form a relationship with Jesus, I have and if though I have been in tough times I know that I am in peace, because of his love for me!

I know I might sound like the bad one here but I wouldn’t forgive her, if she has been nothing but a complete bad influence and burden to me then to hell with her, I couldn’t love a mother who acted like that. I would try to keep a good relationship with your brother and his son. It will be hard because he reminds you of your baby but I’m sure after a while you’ll begin to love him like one of your own. If you are wanting a baby then I would find a good guy to settle down with and have one or there is always adoption, give an unlucky kid a good home. I know you will never forget your first baby and you shouldn’t try to. There isn’t a way to go back in time to save him but having one that you can care for will help with the pain. I still have to say that there is no way I could forgive her but if you find it necessary then start off with a discussion about how you think it was wrong and see where that leads. I wish you the best of luck.

Wow, your Mum is really messed up. I would NEVER forgive her, why on Earth would you want someone like her in your life. I would try to get out of there as soon as possible. I feel so sorry for you, no-one should have to go through what you went through. She doesn’t deserve you.

It must be so hard for you at the moment, of course you want your baby back, and it hurts you to see other mothers with their babies, and you are never going to forget about your baby or stop missing her. But things will get easier in time. But at the moment, I think you need to get the hell out of that house (if you haven’t already). You should keep trying for a baby with your boyfriend if that is what you want to do.

I couldn’t even comprehend forgiving your mother for what she did. But it is your decision, and if you really do want to forgive her, then you really need to talk to her about it. Maybe you could try and get some sort of professional help, maybe from a counselor etc. I think that, that would probably help a lot. I hope that things start getting better. I wish you the best of luck.

I am so sorry to hear that. In Matthew 18:22, Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” The Bible says if you do not forgive, God will not forgive you. Holding a grudge won’t do anything, but cripple. I am so sorry for your loss.